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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 743578" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Copa...dear friend...we have a part in every childs life until they are 18. Maybe thats too old and most are emotionally detaching by 16. That is the age I started getting myself and my.kids ready to be adults. That for me was when I let them make important life decisions and when we started transitioning from me parent to me your cheerleader and friend.</p><p></p><p>There is no way to be an actual parent to an adult. Yes, yes, sometimes they come to me wanting or needing a mommy, for a hug, for reassurance, for love. Most of the time though they have made decisions before I hear about them and they are not looking for input or criticism. </p><p></p><p>At a certain time in life they write their own stories and we are not a part of it unless we decide to house and support them. Then we are still there, although they may resent us.</p><p></p><p>I have read that God gives us our kids until age 18.</p><p></p><p>We dont have to walk away for our kids to be making their own footprints in the sand. We can be there, but our impact is not as great. It is natural, even if we have kids who struggle.</p><p></p><p>This doesnt mean we are not loved. Only speaking for myself, I am sure my kids love me very much. But they dont want me to criticize their choices. They still seek approval. Now some adult kids who bring us here need our wisdom even if they dont want it. And some actions we can not approve of.</p><p></p><p>But we cant walk their paths for them other than as a loving presence in their world.</p><p></p><p>Your son knows how much you love him and I know he loves you back. My experience, which certainly does not mean everyone's, is that adult girl children are more touchy/feely and verbally affectionate than boys. In my world at least my girls can easily express and show affection. Sonic can too but not as effusively. Bart can when he wants to, but it isnt every time I talk to him, like with the girls. Yet I know he loves me a lot.</p><p></p><p>You know your son loves you too even if he doesnt say so each time you talk. But he makes his own foot prints. They all do.</p><p></p><p>Love and hugs! Find peace in your heart today. J is fine!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 743578, member: 1550"] Copa...dear friend...we have a part in every childs life until they are 18. Maybe thats too old and most are emotionally detaching by 16. That is the age I started getting myself and my.kids ready to be adults. That for me was when I let them make important life decisions and when we started transitioning from me parent to me your cheerleader and friend. There is no way to be an actual parent to an adult. Yes, yes, sometimes they come to me wanting or needing a mommy, for a hug, for reassurance, for love. Most of the time though they have made decisions before I hear about them and they are not looking for input or criticism. At a certain time in life they write their own stories and we are not a part of it unless we decide to house and support them. Then we are still there, although they may resent us. I have read that God gives us our kids until age 18. We dont have to walk away for our kids to be making their own footprints in the sand. We can be there, but our impact is not as great. It is natural, even if we have kids who struggle. This doesnt mean we are not loved. Only speaking for myself, I am sure my kids love me very much. But they dont want me to criticize their choices. They still seek approval. Now some adult kids who bring us here need our wisdom even if they dont want it. And some actions we can not approve of. But we cant walk their paths for them other than as a loving presence in their world. Your son knows how much you love him and I know he loves you back. My experience, which certainly does not mean everyone's, is that adult girl children are more touchy/feely and verbally affectionate than boys. In my world at least my girls can easily express and show affection. Sonic can too but not as effusively. Bart can when he wants to, but it isnt every time I talk to him, like with the girls. Yet I know he loves me a lot. You know your son loves you too even if he doesnt say so each time you talk. But he makes his own foot prints. They all do. Love and hugs! Find peace in your heart today. J is fine! [/QUOTE]
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