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<blockquote data-quote="Beta" data-source="post: 743583" data-attributes="member: 22597"><p><strong>"It is hard. I know exactly what you mean. I felt the same way. After years of the craziness of it all, I had to realize that if I was asking in faith, then it would take faith and patience to bring calm into my own life, despite what may be happening in theirs. It has become a practice for me to keep praying, especially when I feel those pangs of fear of the unknown. It helps to put out the flames of anxiety, lest they build and consume me completely.</strong></p><p><strong>Keep praying and posting and get your feelings out. Grief comes in many forms and waxes and wanes. The difficult part, is grieving over lifestyle choices, no contact, unanswered questions. It is a harder journey than losing a loved one in death. There is a finality to that. This, is <em>ongoing</em>."</strong></p><p></p><p>New Leaf, this is so true, all of it. It IS a journey, and one that never comes to completion. </p><p></p><p>Elsi, I'm pretty sure he's punishing me (us) for the many perceived "transgressions" we have committed against him in his mind. I have come to the decision not to text him or phone him anymore. There is no point and I'm probably just reinforcing his satisfaction in his desire to punish. </p><p></p><p>Copa-The questions you raise are insightful. "How do we walk away?" "How do we take the active role, the leaver, not the passive one, the one left?" I think we probably all vacillate back and forth between being the one who sets the boundaries to being the one passively waiting on them. It's exhausting--spiritually, emotionally, and physically. I too have to wonder, "Why am I choosing this?" I'm still working through that one, as well as the others. </p><p>I just spoke with a dear friend, who took a moment to pray with me, and she reminded me of a precious scripture in I Peter: "Cast all your cares on Him, for He cares for you." So today, this is what I will do. He is God; He loves J more than I do, and He is big enough to care for him and to carry me through this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Beta, post: 743583, member: 22597"] [B]"It is hard. I know exactly what you mean. I felt the same way. After years of the craziness of it all, I had to realize that if I was asking in faith, then it would take faith and patience to bring calm into my own life, despite what may be happening in theirs. It has become a practice for me to keep praying, especially when I feel those pangs of fear of the unknown. It helps to put out the flames of anxiety, lest they build and consume me completely. Keep praying and posting and get your feelings out. Grief comes in many forms and waxes and wanes. The difficult part, is grieving over lifestyle choices, no contact, unanswered questions. It is a harder journey than losing a loved one in death. There is a finality to that. This, is [I]ongoing[/I]."[/B] [B][/B] New Leaf, this is so true, all of it. It IS a journey, and one that never comes to completion. Elsi, I'm pretty sure he's punishing me (us) for the many perceived "transgressions" we have committed against him in his mind. I have come to the decision not to text him or phone him anymore. There is no point and I'm probably just reinforcing his satisfaction in his desire to punish. Copa-The questions you raise are insightful. "How do we walk away?" "How do we take the active role, the leaver, not the passive one, the one left?" I think we probably all vacillate back and forth between being the one who sets the boundaries to being the one passively waiting on them. It's exhausting--spiritually, emotionally, and physically. I too have to wonder, "Why am I choosing this?" I'm still working through that one, as well as the others. I just spoke with a dear friend, who took a moment to pray with me, and she reminded me of a precious scripture in I Peter: "Cast all your cares on Him, for He cares for you." So today, this is what I will do. He is God; He loves J more than I do, and He is big enough to care for him and to carry me through this. [/QUOTE]
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