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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 753619" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>Thanks WC for such a thoughtful response! </p><p></p><p>DS has not been violent since his arrest in June while in his previous residence. Since then his mother and I bailed him out of jail, sent him to a 30 day rehab, and then a halfway house, which proved not to be a good fit for him. He has been with us since late August give or take and things have been going well overall.</p><p></p><p>His case is now complete. He was sentenced to probation for two years.</p><p></p><p>He attends a minimum of three AA meetings each week and has made several friends in our area who are all sober and whom he met at these meetings. He is doing this without any nagging or prompting from us. His sobriety is very important to him. He socializes with these friends both at meetings and at other times. </p><p></p><p>He is also in therapy but it's unclear whether or not this is truly useful for him.</p><p></p><p>He is set to begin community college in January and he has held the same part time job for four months now.</p><p></p><p>So really our only concern are these fringe ideas, which I would agree are most likely fear based and the product of a person who hasn't yet found the larger purpose in his life. I will say this generation is facing a very different and in many ways bleaker future than I did at the same age. Maybe this is a factor too.</p><p></p><p>I think if we became concerned that he was at risk of becoming violent we would ask the questions you suggested. The trouble is that it's so easy for well meaning parents to focus primarily on what is going smoothly and brush aside moments of concern. So far they are just that - moments - but adolescents are masters at showing parents just enough to pacify us. We have no idea what is really going on in his head. </p><p></p><p>We'll stay on top of it and update as needed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 753619, member: 13303"] Thanks WC for such a thoughtful response! DS has not been violent since his arrest in June while in his previous residence. Since then his mother and I bailed him out of jail, sent him to a 30 day rehab, and then a halfway house, which proved not to be a good fit for him. He has been with us since late August give or take and things have been going well overall. His case is now complete. He was sentenced to probation for two years. He attends a minimum of three AA meetings each week and has made several friends in our area who are all sober and whom he met at these meetings. He is doing this without any nagging or prompting from us. His sobriety is very important to him. He socializes with these friends both at meetings and at other times. He is also in therapy but it's unclear whether or not this is truly useful for him. He is set to begin community college in January and he has held the same part time job for four months now. So really our only concern are these fringe ideas, which I would agree are most likely fear based and the product of a person who hasn't yet found the larger purpose in his life. I will say this generation is facing a very different and in many ways bleaker future than I did at the same age. Maybe this is a factor too. I think if we became concerned that he was at risk of becoming violent we would ask the questions you suggested. The trouble is that it's so easy for well meaning parents to focus primarily on what is going smoothly and brush aside moments of concern. So far they are just that - moments - but adolescents are masters at showing parents just enough to pacify us. We have no idea what is really going on in his head. We'll stay on top of it and update as needed. [/QUOTE]
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