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<blockquote data-quote="forkeeps251" data-source="post: 499983" data-attributes="member: 12854"><p>Well, here is my explanation. First, it would likely be months before he would have anything perscribed to him... I'm not going to stop the process, the first of which is getting a diagnosis, which I need whether we decide to go the route of medication or not. Two weeks, to me, is a very short period of time. If this behavior continues, down the road after he has had all the evaluations, seen a psychiatrist, been given a diagnosis, etc... only at that time would I really make a decision. </p><p></p><p>My reasoning for not stopping the process... well, I've been down this road before. Twice before I actually got him in to see the play therapist and he improved between the time I made the appointment and the actual appointment, and I ended up canceling to save myself the hassle, thinking "Things are OK now, I don't need to do this". This has proven a couple of times to not be the case. Now that I've gotten this far (pasts the play therapist, to the psychologist, next step would be a psychiatrist).</p><p></p><p>So, it will be a few months before I will really have to make some sort of decission. And like I said, two weeks isn't long and things can certainly change in the future.</p><p></p><p>Another reason I'm not ruling it out is that there is a pretty big grey area between what is expected of a child his age, and how he was acting (thorwing chairs, shutting down completely, hiding from kids, biting, hitting... the list goes on). Now that the most serious behaviors at school have lessened, like throwing stuff and screaming, it doesn't mean that there isn't still work that needs to be done... and that is just where behavior is concerned. I'm THRILLED that those really terrible things have lessened, because it makes the possibility of expulsion or something like that a lot less, but it doesn't mean he doesn't still have some issues. I received his "report card" yesterday, and read on it that he still requires teacher directions multiple times before he can comply, and that on his behavior plan everything is still listed as a 'work in progress'. </p><p></p><p>And finally, there is more to the problem than just behavior. I really need to know, and I think that the psychologist will help me with this, whether the stress, anxiety, and depression that he is feeling is related specifically to ADHD or something else. Even if he isn't in the principals office every day, if he is very unhappy because of his inability to control himself, that in itself is an issue. Plus, there is the issue for learning... I'm completely aware that everyone has different abilities, and I would absolutly condsider other techniques before medication when it comes to school work and learning, but there is an issue there, too. He is behind academically... well, as much as you can get behind in kindergarten.. from the other students. Basically, he isn't progressing. He knew all his letters before he started, and that is still about all he knows. He is not learning to read at all... each six weeks they are given sight words to learn, and he hasn't learned any of them. Also on the report card it shows how many students have "mastered" the subject matter... and usually all but one or two have, and one of them is always difficult child (based on his "failing" score). </p><p></p><p>I know this is only kindergarten so I'm not THAT worried. It is getting very likely that he will be held back. But I do see the potential for it to become a bigger issue down the road, so I want to be prepared for that. </p><p></p><p>In any case, I'm going to give serious consideration to what the multiple doctors and psychologists advise me. Medicating him, when and if the time comes, isn't something I would take lightly.</p><p></p><p>I think the best advice comes from Buddy... I should just keep my mouth shut about it all! The person who said that to me in particular is a friend that I have shared a lot of the problems I've been having with. I'm rethinking what I should be telling people about it though.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, that is a LOT to have to explain to people, so that's why I was wondering if anyone else had come accross that and what they said <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="forkeeps251, post: 499983, member: 12854"] Well, here is my explanation. First, it would likely be months before he would have anything perscribed to him... I'm not going to stop the process, the first of which is getting a diagnosis, which I need whether we decide to go the route of medication or not. Two weeks, to me, is a very short period of time. If this behavior continues, down the road after he has had all the evaluations, seen a psychiatrist, been given a diagnosis, etc... only at that time would I really make a decision. My reasoning for not stopping the process... well, I've been down this road before. Twice before I actually got him in to see the play therapist and he improved between the time I made the appointment and the actual appointment, and I ended up canceling to save myself the hassle, thinking "Things are OK now, I don't need to do this". This has proven a couple of times to not be the case. Now that I've gotten this far (pasts the play therapist, to the psychologist, next step would be a psychiatrist). So, it will be a few months before I will really have to make some sort of decission. And like I said, two weeks isn't long and things can certainly change in the future. Another reason I'm not ruling it out is that there is a pretty big grey area between what is expected of a child his age, and how he was acting (thorwing chairs, shutting down completely, hiding from kids, biting, hitting... the list goes on). Now that the most serious behaviors at school have lessened, like throwing stuff and screaming, it doesn't mean that there isn't still work that needs to be done... and that is just where behavior is concerned. I'm THRILLED that those really terrible things have lessened, because it makes the possibility of expulsion or something like that a lot less, but it doesn't mean he doesn't still have some issues. I received his "report card" yesterday, and read on it that he still requires teacher directions multiple times before he can comply, and that on his behavior plan everything is still listed as a 'work in progress'. And finally, there is more to the problem than just behavior. I really need to know, and I think that the psychologist will help me with this, whether the stress, anxiety, and depression that he is feeling is related specifically to ADHD or something else. Even if he isn't in the principals office every day, if he is very unhappy because of his inability to control himself, that in itself is an issue. Plus, there is the issue for learning... I'm completely aware that everyone has different abilities, and I would absolutly condsider other techniques before medication when it comes to school work and learning, but there is an issue there, too. He is behind academically... well, as much as you can get behind in kindergarten.. from the other students. Basically, he isn't progressing. He knew all his letters before he started, and that is still about all he knows. He is not learning to read at all... each six weeks they are given sight words to learn, and he hasn't learned any of them. Also on the report card it shows how many students have "mastered" the subject matter... and usually all but one or two have, and one of them is always difficult child (based on his "failing" score). I know this is only kindergarten so I'm not THAT worried. It is getting very likely that he will be held back. But I do see the potential for it to become a bigger issue down the road, so I want to be prepared for that. In any case, I'm going to give serious consideration to what the multiple doctors and psychologists advise me. Medicating him, when and if the time comes, isn't something I would take lightly. I think the best advice comes from Buddy... I should just keep my mouth shut about it all! The person who said that to me in particular is a friend that I have shared a lot of the problems I've been having with. I'm rethinking what I should be telling people about it though. Anyway, that is a LOT to have to explain to people, so that's why I was wondering if anyone else had come accross that and what they said :-) [/QUOTE]
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