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Who'da thunk it - difficult child's bio dad
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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 380473" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Terry, he's been unable to have a car, drivers license, bank loan, mortgage, credit card, etc. His former long term common law g/f inherited a property and she owned a car and would drive him around, he had access to her credit cards etc. They broke up about 2 years ago, but he thought they'd get back together. They didn't. He is now living with his old g/f from 15 years ago, they've "found each other" again (Coincidentally was my best friend when he showed his dead beat ways and she loathed him, only to be in a relationship with him afterwards for a couple of years, and now all this time later is with him again. It's quite funny). This g/f wants certain things at this age, a home of their own, to not have to chauffer a grown man around because he can't get a license to drive etc. I think that is part of the recent change. I also think that it was easy to ignore supporting difficult child or seeing him when he had no contact and no pressure for support etc. But as difficult child has gotten older, he's gotten to learn that difficult child has a mind of his own ... and a mouth! And he lays it out. The guys pride is taking a huge hit the way Matt is telling him "as it really is". Easy to be a deadbeat when you are not forced to face that in your day to day life. His only choice now is to get it together and be a father in all the traditional ways, or cut difficult child out of his life again. But if I know my boy, he'd be pretty vocal about that and it is at a point with Matt that he feels its all or nothing with bio dad, and if its nothing, it will be permanant. I think his dad realizes if he blows it now, he's not getting another chance, Know what I mean??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 380473, member: 4264"] Terry, he's been unable to have a car, drivers license, bank loan, mortgage, credit card, etc. His former long term common law g/f inherited a property and she owned a car and would drive him around, he had access to her credit cards etc. They broke up about 2 years ago, but he thought they'd get back together. They didn't. He is now living with his old g/f from 15 years ago, they've "found each other" again (Coincidentally was my best friend when he showed his dead beat ways and she loathed him, only to be in a relationship with him afterwards for a couple of years, and now all this time later is with him again. It's quite funny). This g/f wants certain things at this age, a home of their own, to not have to chauffer a grown man around because he can't get a license to drive etc. I think that is part of the recent change. I also think that it was easy to ignore supporting difficult child or seeing him when he had no contact and no pressure for support etc. But as difficult child has gotten older, he's gotten to learn that difficult child has a mind of his own ... and a mouth! And he lays it out. The guys pride is taking a huge hit the way Matt is telling him "as it really is". Easy to be a deadbeat when you are not forced to face that in your day to day life. His only choice now is to get it together and be a father in all the traditional ways, or cut difficult child out of his life again. But if I know my boy, he'd be pretty vocal about that and it is at a point with Matt that he feels its all or nothing with bio dad, and if its nothing, it will be permanant. I think his dad realizes if he blows it now, he's not getting another chance, Know what I mean?? [/QUOTE]
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