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<blockquote data-quote="Feeling Sad" data-source="post: 675127" data-attributes="member: 19245"><p>BG, I totally understand why you "don't get it".</p><p></p><p>You mentioned that your son heard voices and went to a hospital. He then checked himself out later.</p><p></p><p>My son is very severe with full blown schizophrenia. He hears voices. I had to file a restraining order because he held a jagged bottle to my throat and then weeks later argued with his voices about not wanting to kill me.</p><p></p><p>My point is this. I feel when our adult children hear voices or have any delusional thought processes, it is much more difficult to not worry. Do they possess free will? Or rather, are they misguided by these voices or delusional thoughts?</p><p></p><p>I still have made the only choice possible. Yes, I worry....a lot. But, I could never have him back home. I have a younger son to keep safe...as well as myself. </p><p></p><p>So, I am helpless to help him. I now realize, that I was also HELPLESS TO HELP HIM while he lived under my roof.</p><p></p><p>But, BG, you do have a special blessing over my situation. He calls you. </p><p></p><p>Yes, he tells you that he is cold or not eating. Yes, it is horrible to hear.</p><p></p><p>But, he CALLS you. You get to hear your child's voice. That is your gift. It is a true gift. </p><p></p><p>We all had dreams for our children. Who would have thought that even after relinquishing all of my dreams, one by one, for my gifted son, that I would do anything for that simple, yet very special gift....to hear my son's voice.</p><p></p><p>I have not heard his voice for 6 months. I have had no contact. I have 4 1/2 years left of no contact per the dictates of the restraining order. I greatly fear that I will never see him or hear from him ever again.</p><p></p><p>These days...we have to cherish things that 'normal' parents would find foreign...even unbelievable. They have wonderful things to cherish. But, our lives are what they are. We hold on tight to whatever gifts we are given.</p><p></p><p>Hold onto the gift and cherish it. You have contact.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Feeling Sad, post: 675127, member: 19245"] BG, I totally understand why you "don't get it". You mentioned that your son heard voices and went to a hospital. He then checked himself out later. My son is very severe with full blown schizophrenia. He hears voices. I had to file a restraining order because he held a jagged bottle to my throat and then weeks later argued with his voices about not wanting to kill me. My point is this. I feel when our adult children hear voices or have any delusional thought processes, it is much more difficult to not worry. Do they possess free will? Or rather, are they misguided by these voices or delusional thoughts? I still have made the only choice possible. Yes, I worry....a lot. But, I could never have him back home. I have a younger son to keep safe...as well as myself. So, I am helpless to help him. I now realize, that I was also HELPLESS TO HELP HIM while he lived under my roof. But, BG, you do have a special blessing over my situation. He calls you. Yes, he tells you that he is cold or not eating. Yes, it is horrible to hear. But, he CALLS you. You get to hear your child's voice. That is your gift. It is a true gift. We all had dreams for our children. Who would have thought that even after relinquishing all of my dreams, one by one, for my gifted son, that I would do anything for that simple, yet very special gift....to hear my son's voice. I have not heard his voice for 6 months. I have had no contact. I have 4 1/2 years left of no contact per the dictates of the restraining order. I greatly fear that I will never see him or hear from him ever again. These days...we have to cherish things that 'normal' parents would find foreign...even unbelievable. They have wonderful things to cherish. But, our lives are what they are. We hold on tight to whatever gifts we are given. Hold onto the gift and cherish it. You have contact. [/QUOTE]
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