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Why are mother/daughter relationships so hard?
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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 752722" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>Yes, yes, yes! I so echo this post. I, too, have figured out that the love I yearned for my whole life, I can only give to myself. I can do it, too .I did not believe that for a long time, but I do now. By tending to myself emotionally, physically, and spiritually, I have come to love myself at deeper and deeper levels. How do I know ? Because I hardly ever critizise myself anymore .I am getting so much better at no longer scaring myself. I am so much less judgemental of myself. I look in the mirror every day and say "I love you" and I mean it. It's not hard anymore. </p><p></p><p>I am slowly stopping the self abandonment I used to practice. I feel my feelings and identify the distractions my mind wants to conjure to cope rather than remaining present. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes, I still don't want to make the time. And then I realize that it is I who gives the love that is there away. I am the one who doesn't always want to love myself as if I am not worth the effort. </p><p></p><p>My Mother is still living . And I have let her off the hook. She did the best she could do with the tools she had at the time - just as I did with my kids. She held unresolved pain - just like I did. When I seek to love her and be of service and don't expect anything back in return, I allow the love that flows inside of me to nurture me and to fill the holes my perceptions tore into myself. </p><p></p><p>It all comes back to me and my relationship with myself . How do I treat myself? How do I honor myself?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 752722, member: 24254"] Yes, yes, yes! I so echo this post. I, too, have figured out that the love I yearned for my whole life, I can only give to myself. I can do it, too .I did not believe that for a long time, but I do now. By tending to myself emotionally, physically, and spiritually, I have come to love myself at deeper and deeper levels. How do I know ? Because I hardly ever critizise myself anymore .I am getting so much better at no longer scaring myself. I am so much less judgemental of myself. I look in the mirror every day and say "I love you" and I mean it. It's not hard anymore. I am slowly stopping the self abandonment I used to practice. I feel my feelings and identify the distractions my mind wants to conjure to cope rather than remaining present. Sometimes, I still don't want to make the time. And then I realize that it is I who gives the love that is there away. I am the one who doesn't always want to love myself as if I am not worth the effort. My Mother is still living . And I have let her off the hook. She did the best she could do with the tools she had at the time - just as I did with my kids. She held unresolved pain - just like I did. When I seek to love her and be of service and don't expect anything back in return, I allow the love that flows inside of me to nurture me and to fill the holes my perceptions tore into myself. It all comes back to me and my relationship with myself . How do I treat myself? How do I honor myself? [/QUOTE]
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