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Why are our difficult child's so good at self sabotage?
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 562610" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>I think it's a combination of anxiety, executive function difficulties and sensory issues. It's not just a matter of being stubborn, it's a combination of factors. Add in the stress of the morning when everyone else is rushing around, difficult children can pick up on your anxiety and then the wheels come off.</p><p></p><p>One strategy we implemented with our difficult child was that he has a shower before bed rather than in the morning. He's still bathing, but the rush element has been taken out of it. There's no hard deadline, so there's far less stress involved.</p><p></p><p>Are you able to do something like that? If you're not worried about being late for work yourself, you will probably have much more energy to fight the shower battle. And if your difficult child knows that after the shower she can curl up in her warm safe bed, rather than having to face the ravages of school, it might be less of a battle on her side as well.</p><p></p><p>Hope this helps. Sometimes I've found that changing the battleground also gets rid of the battle.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 562610, member: 3907"] I think it's a combination of anxiety, executive function difficulties and sensory issues. It's not just a matter of being stubborn, it's a combination of factors. Add in the stress of the morning when everyone else is rushing around, difficult children can pick up on your anxiety and then the wheels come off. One strategy we implemented with our difficult child was that he has a shower before bed rather than in the morning. He's still bathing, but the rush element has been taken out of it. There's no hard deadline, so there's far less stress involved. Are you able to do something like that? If you're not worried about being late for work yourself, you will probably have much more energy to fight the shower battle. And if your difficult child knows that after the shower she can curl up in her warm safe bed, rather than having to face the ravages of school, it might be less of a battle on her side as well. Hope this helps. Sometimes I've found that changing the battleground also gets rid of the battle. [/QUOTE]
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