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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 164726" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Christy, I am interested in how this works out for you. </p><p> </p><p>My kids really never liked day programs - especially difficult child. He has always been a loner - like my grandpa. I never forced him to join in since he was happy to just watch. Many kids are observers first and then joiners. My difficult child was diagnosis with severe anxiety last fall and now since he has been in therapy and on Flourexitine and Clonazepam, he is more willing to join in (though I do think it is also because he is growing older and feeling better about his own abilities?). My difficult child has watched for a long time and is now ready to join in but doesn't know how. Fortunately we have found cub scouts and other things were kids are accepting him (until he starts to show his anger which has only been at school this late Winter and all Spring)</p><p> </p><p>He has never wanted to join any sports because he wants to be perfect before doing something. This Summer he is in Dwarf League Baseball and is probably one of very few with absolutley no baseball background - other kids have gone through toss and tee. The other kids have accepted them as they would anyone and I love watching him interact with the other kids (he doesn't know them), joking with them on the bench. I think he is doing fantastic - doesn't look like a brand new player.</p><p> </p><p>The day programs in our town (YMCA and Parks & Rec) have college kids as councelors. They don't always know how to deal with GFGness in a group setting. One year they had the kids go outside in a heat advisory - Just to say they don't have a lot of experience with watching large groups of kids.</p><p> </p><p>This summer I have an awesome 15 yr old boy coming into my home to "watch" difficult child. They play board games, ride bikes, go bowling, make their own lunch (usually grill something on the outside grill), practice baseball skills, ect. It is just the one on one difficult child needs right now. He is getting sociallizing through baseball and bowling and later this summer, football.</p><p> </p><p>Please let me know what you find for answers since I am still looking for more answers.</p><p> </p><p>Since your difficult child was fine when you picked him up, it is almost as if he forgot any fun and is coming up with reasons not to go. Goes with emphasising the negative - the more he thinks of these little things, the bigger they get. Also, the first step in joining a group is hard even if he just went through it yesterday and was fine.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 164726, member: 5096"] Christy, I am interested in how this works out for you. My kids really never liked day programs - especially difficult child. He has always been a loner - like my grandpa. I never forced him to join in since he was happy to just watch. Many kids are observers first and then joiners. My difficult child was diagnosis with severe anxiety last fall and now since he has been in therapy and on Flourexitine and Clonazepam, he is more willing to join in (though I do think it is also because he is growing older and feeling better about his own abilities?). My difficult child has watched for a long time and is now ready to join in but doesn't know how. Fortunately we have found cub scouts and other things were kids are accepting him (until he starts to show his anger which has only been at school this late Winter and all Spring) He has never wanted to join any sports because he wants to be perfect before doing something. This Summer he is in Dwarf League Baseball and is probably one of very few with absolutley no baseball background - other kids have gone through toss and tee. The other kids have accepted them as they would anyone and I love watching him interact with the other kids (he doesn't know them), joking with them on the bench. I think he is doing fantastic - doesn't look like a brand new player. The day programs in our town (YMCA and Parks & Rec) have college kids as councelors. They don't always know how to deal with GFGness in a group setting. One year they had the kids go outside in a heat advisory - Just to say they don't have a lot of experience with watching large groups of kids. This summer I have an awesome 15 yr old boy coming into my home to "watch" difficult child. They play board games, ride bikes, go bowling, make their own lunch (usually grill something on the outside grill), practice baseball skills, ect. It is just the one on one difficult child needs right now. He is getting sociallizing through baseball and bowling and later this summer, football. Please let me know what you find for answers since I am still looking for more answers. Since your difficult child was fine when you picked him up, it is almost as if he forgot any fun and is coming up with reasons not to go. Goes with emphasising the negative - the more he thinks of these little things, the bigger they get. Also, the first step in joining a group is hard even if he just went through it yesterday and was fine. [/QUOTE]
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