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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 446282" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>Susie, I do not have those books but I might very well get them. Actually makes me smile to get such books for handling tough parents! lol</p><p>Last time they were here, after 2 weeks of bs, I finally blew and told them to BACK OFF! I'VE HAD ENOUGH!. The nice way would not work... talk about an explosive situation after that. I was so upset I did not sleep for 3 days. Since they were still with us for an other weeks, I tried talking to my mother but she simply would not listen. At the end I stated that we obviously don't agree, I heard her opinion on parenting MY kids and now I was making the decision on what I thought was best. She was shoked I was not doing what she told me to do. She went on telling me I sould change my ways. I finally said that they are MY kids and I will do what is best for them and I will simply not back down because difficult child needs to be protected even if she does not see/understand it. She had the nerves to respond "you might be their mother, but they are not yours, they are not your property". GRRRR I just said that it was my role to protect them and decide what was best and that it was not a negotiation, simply a statement for her to accept. </p><p>They will be with us for a whole month... I am worried. On the other hand, there is no way I can tell them not to come. I love them and my kids love them. The situation gets explosive because we have a difficult child and I'm tired (and probably less patient) from parenting a difficult child.</p><p>I need to come up with a plan to handle my parents so they learn on their own since they disregard what I ever I say. What I really wish is for difficult child not to honeymoon too long and show the real difficult child real fast. When he gets to that stage, it is usually time for them to leave and they only get a few days of it. And, just for the record, they seemed caught by surprise by it! My mother is like "Oh dear! I can't believe he just spit on me". And me, in my head "welcome to my reality".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 446282, member: 11847"] Susie, I do not have those books but I might very well get them. Actually makes me smile to get such books for handling tough parents! lol Last time they were here, after 2 weeks of bs, I finally blew and told them to BACK OFF! I'VE HAD ENOUGH!. The nice way would not work... talk about an explosive situation after that. I was so upset I did not sleep for 3 days. Since they were still with us for an other weeks, I tried talking to my mother but she simply would not listen. At the end I stated that we obviously don't agree, I heard her opinion on parenting MY kids and now I was making the decision on what I thought was best. She was shoked I was not doing what she told me to do. She went on telling me I sould change my ways. I finally said that they are MY kids and I will do what is best for them and I will simply not back down because difficult child needs to be protected even if she does not see/understand it. She had the nerves to respond "you might be their mother, but they are not yours, they are not your property". GRRRR I just said that it was my role to protect them and decide what was best and that it was not a negotiation, simply a statement for her to accept. They will be with us for a whole month... I am worried. On the other hand, there is no way I can tell them not to come. I love them and my kids love them. The situation gets explosive because we have a difficult child and I'm tired (and probably less patient) from parenting a difficult child. I need to come up with a plan to handle my parents so they learn on their own since they disregard what I ever I say. What I really wish is for difficult child not to honeymoon too long and show the real difficult child real fast. When he gets to that stage, it is usually time for them to leave and they only get a few days of it. And, just for the record, they seemed caught by surprise by it! My mother is like "Oh dear! I can't believe he just spit on me". And me, in my head "welcome to my reality". [/QUOTE]
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