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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 446381" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">First off, make a plan. And this plan does not include the grands. It is a plan between you & H only. Plan ahead for different scenarios, such as time outs-not for difficult child, but for everyone else. If difficult child throws a rager, the plan could be that H takes the grands and other two kids to the park, to mcDs, for a hike, out to swim, whatever, but be prepared....have an escape plan in place. That way, as you're handling difficult child your way, you won't have your mom interjecting her opinions and advice. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">If dinnertime is a usually difficult time, how about planning a picnic night every Wednesday so difficult child has something to look forward to while the grands are there, have him be your helper or have grandpa play jacks with him, etc. Iow, give everyone a job to do, keep them busy, but in fun easy and be sure to leave slack in the schedule for some downtime, just not too much. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Plan your menus NOW so you're prepared and don't need to make constant runs to the store. Do you have a pool? Buy some pool toys that will engage both the grands and the peanuts, such as pool volleyball. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">I used to have a mothers helper when mine were little and that REALLY helped me out quite a bit in terms of keeping to my schedule, keeping difficult child occupied, etc. Maybe there is a local jr high student from your area that would like to earn a little money? </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Above all, stick to your normal routine-nothing can trigger a meltdown like a switch in the daily routine, and having company just makes it crazier. When your mom starts to intervene, hold up your hand as if to stop her and simply say, "Mom, we will talk about this later. For now, you can help me by playing with baby, ect, prepping for dinner, whatever". ALWAYS, when she intervenes, give her a job and portray the job as helping you. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Moms need to feel needed and when chaos ensues, make her feel needed by giving her a job to do. Best of luck!</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 446381, member: 2211"] [COLOR=#000080][SIZE=2]Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. First off, make a plan. And this plan does not include the grands. It is a plan between you & H only. Plan ahead for different scenarios, such as time outs-not for difficult child, but for everyone else. If difficult child throws a rager, the plan could be that H takes the grands and other two kids to the park, to mcDs, for a hike, out to swim, whatever, but be prepared....have an escape plan in place. That way, as you're handling difficult child your way, you won't have your mom interjecting her opinions and advice. If dinnertime is a usually difficult time, how about planning a picnic night every Wednesday so difficult child has something to look forward to while the grands are there, have him be your helper or have grandpa play jacks with him, etc. Iow, give everyone a job to do, keep them busy, but in fun easy and be sure to leave slack in the schedule for some downtime, just not too much. Plan your menus NOW so you're prepared and don't need to make constant runs to the store. Do you have a pool? Buy some pool toys that will engage both the grands and the peanuts, such as pool volleyball. I used to have a mothers helper when mine were little and that REALLY helped me out quite a bit in terms of keeping to my schedule, keeping difficult child occupied, etc. Maybe there is a local jr high student from your area that would like to earn a little money? Above all, stick to your normal routine-nothing can trigger a meltdown like a switch in the daily routine, and having company just makes it crazier. When your mom starts to intervene, hold up your hand as if to stop her and simply say, "Mom, we will talk about this later. For now, you can help me by playing with baby, ect, prepping for dinner, whatever". ALWAYS, when she intervenes, give her a job and portray the job as helping you. Moms need to feel needed and when chaos ensues, make her feel needed by giving her a job to do. Best of luck![/SIZE][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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