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<blockquote data-quote="gingersgrl" data-source="post: 557822" data-attributes="member: 15420"><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">Her last evaluation was a month or so back when they said conduct disorder. Its just everyone that knows anything about kids like this always brings up Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and that was always been my feeling too and the Childrens hospital thought so as well. I am sometimes glad I am Grandma because I won't be around to see the path her life may take which will break my heart. She may do well eventually but getting there with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) will be a very rocky road at best. I've always known that. I did start therapy the first time when she was about 4 but it wasn't at all effective. They told me it was more about educating me and it was. Then we did it again when she was 5 - 7 but with the same results. From reading I knew traditional therapies don't work on Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids and so have winged it since then and tried to manage and contain it. But the animal abuse changed it all. I was surprised she was diagnosed with conduct disorder and told them about the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) but he disregarded it. Why I don't know. Both on this forum and another I've posted on others have brought up Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) to me so it confirms to me it was the right diagnosis all along. I didn't mention it first, someone else asked me if I'Learning Disability (LD) thought about it, so it fits and feels right.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">I have repeatedly underestimated her rage and anger so I may be being foolish but I am not frightened of her <u>today</u>. Yesterday was the first time ever I really got it that it could happen....she could hurt me but even then it wasn't a fear of her yesterday it was an awareness of it being a real possibility in the future. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">So here is my plan for the good or for the bad until something changes it. I tried to make an appointment. back at the Childrens Hospital this afternoon but need to call back on Mon. I will go for as full and comprehensive evaluation as I can get. I will take what they say with what I know and go from there. In the meantime....I talked to her this evening and told her this - if she hurts an animal or me I WILL call the police to come arrest her immediately. If she has a melt down like yesterday I will take her to emergency mental health and leave her. They made clear last time they would take her after our evaluation but it would be temporary in the hospital and she would go to a live in situation from there. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">I know it may seem foolish to some of you and maybe it is but its what feels right. Its a firm plan and I am committed to it and she's aware of it. I told her she could scream and carry on and I'll wear earplugs all the way to mental health and if it's the police I'll stand out front for the neighbors to hear....she wants everything to be a secret...while waiting for them but it's got to stop. I will do the parent sheet to take with me to the hospital appointment. and try to get the appointment for as soon as possible. I will discuss the residential treatment with them and my fears about her not going to residential treatment and see what they think. I will feel like I did everything possible then before throwing my hands up in defeat. Maybe I'll get a miracle between now and then.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"><span style="font-family: 'Times'">On a positive note, she loves school after all that homeschooling and really really wants to stay in this school. After yesterdays melt down and our discussion last night she seemed to try for the first time in forever today after school. I had to run to the store and I got home 5 min. after she was dropped off by the bus. I saw the bus so knew exactly how long she had been home when I pulled up. When I came in the house she had already changed and was out doing her chores. That is a first- ever. Normally she would be into something of mine and not be even considering doing any chores she had. She must be taking this at least a little seriously. It was so out of character for her. I told her I was proud of her and not to stop just because I said I was proud of her and she didn't. She finished her chores pleasantly. She really wants to go to school in this particular school because she knows kids there from way back to preschool and doesn't want to have to leave and go to a new school. Her report card came today too. 1 A, 2 C's and 1D. The others were pass/fail and she passed. If wanting school can get us through till we get the evaluation it will be such a blessing. </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gingersgrl, post: 557822, member: 15420"] [COLOR=#222222][FONT=Times]Her last evaluation was a month or so back when they said conduct disorder. Its just everyone that knows anything about kids like this always brings up Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and that was always been my feeling too and the Childrens hospital thought so as well. I am sometimes glad I am Grandma because I won't be around to see the path her life may take which will break my heart. She may do well eventually but getting there with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) will be a very rocky road at best. I've always known that. I did start therapy the first time when she was about 4 but it wasn't at all effective. They told me it was more about educating me and it was. Then we did it again when she was 5 - 7 but with the same results. From reading I knew traditional therapies don't work on Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids and so have winged it since then and tried to manage and contain it. But the animal abuse changed it all. I was surprised she was diagnosed with conduct disorder and told them about the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) but he disregarded it. Why I don't know. Both on this forum and another I've posted on others have brought up Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) to me so it confirms to me it was the right diagnosis all along. I didn't mention it first, someone else asked me if I'Learning Disability (LD) thought about it, so it fits and feels right. I have repeatedly underestimated her rage and anger so I may be being foolish but I am not frightened of her [U]today[/U]. Yesterday was the first time ever I really got it that it could happen....she could hurt me but even then it wasn't a fear of her yesterday it was an awareness of it being a real possibility in the future. So here is my plan for the good or for the bad until something changes it. I tried to make an appointment. back at the Childrens Hospital this afternoon but need to call back on Mon. I will go for as full and comprehensive evaluation as I can get. I will take what they say with what I know and go from there. In the meantime....I talked to her this evening and told her this - if she hurts an animal or me I WILL call the police to come arrest her immediately. If she has a melt down like yesterday I will take her to emergency mental health and leave her. They made clear last time they would take her after our evaluation but it would be temporary in the hospital and she would go to a live in situation from there. I know it may seem foolish to some of you and maybe it is but its what feels right. Its a firm plan and I am committed to it and she's aware of it. I told her she could scream and carry on and I'll wear earplugs all the way to mental health and if it's the police I'll stand out front for the neighbors to hear....she wants everything to be a secret...while waiting for them but it's got to stop. I will do the parent sheet to take with me to the hospital appointment. and try to get the appointment for as soon as possible. I will discuss the residential treatment with them and my fears about her not going to residential treatment and see what they think. I will feel like I did everything possible then before throwing my hands up in defeat. Maybe I'll get a miracle between now and then. On a positive note, she loves school after all that homeschooling and really really wants to stay in this school. After yesterdays melt down and our discussion last night she seemed to try for the first time in forever today after school. I had to run to the store and I got home 5 min. after she was dropped off by the bus. I saw the bus so knew exactly how long she had been home when I pulled up. When I came in the house she had already changed and was out doing her chores. That is a first- ever. Normally she would be into something of mine and not be even considering doing any chores she had. She must be taking this at least a little seriously. It was so out of character for her. I told her I was proud of her and not to stop just because I said I was proud of her and she didn't. She finished her chores pleasantly. She really wants to go to school in this particular school because she knows kids there from way back to preschool and doesn't want to have to leave and go to a new school. Her report card came today too. 1 A, 2 C's and 1D. The others were pass/fail and she passed. If wanting school can get us through till we get the evaluation it will be such a blessing. [/FONT][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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