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Why does my son complain so often?
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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 445605" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>"No" always caused a huge meltdown when my kids were young. At times it didn't matter what I said "no" to, the reaction was the same. I don't think they have much control over their initial reactions at times like that, it's like the lack of instant gratfication kicks something into high gear. In their brain it's very simple: I want that, I should have that, Mom should give it to me. When Mom says no, it throws a kink into their thought process... it seems so unFAIR to them, and downright illogical. Their brains can't handle it and a meltdown ensues. </p><p></p><p>I think the best way to handle it is to not give in, and not be tempted to reason with them. Whenever I made an attempt to reason with my children as to *why* I was saying no, it did nothing but escalate their behavior. I think it gave them false hope because they thought that meant they could negotiate with me, so it frustrated them even more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 445605, member: 1157"] "No" always caused a huge meltdown when my kids were young. At times it didn't matter what I said "no" to, the reaction was the same. I don't think they have much control over their initial reactions at times like that, it's like the lack of instant gratfication kicks something into high gear. In their brain it's very simple: I want that, I should have that, Mom should give it to me. When Mom says no, it throws a kink into their thought process... it seems so unFAIR to them, and downright illogical. Their brains can't handle it and a meltdown ensues. I think the best way to handle it is to not give in, and not be tempted to reason with them. Whenever I made an attempt to reason with my children as to *why* I was saying no, it did nothing but escalate their behavior. I think it gave them false hope because they thought that meant they could negotiate with me, so it frustrated them even more. [/QUOTE]
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