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Why does she like being homeless
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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 749608" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>I would not sign the loans under any circumstances. She is in no place to go to school and be successful. I would sit down with her and let her know your expectations if she wants to continue to live in your home. Write them out- having a job, contributing $ towards the household, what time she needs to be home, being respectful towards you, etc. If she wants to continue staying there then she has to sign the agreement. Be very clear and very specific about what you expect. If she fails to abide by the agreement <em>even one time</em> then you must follow through and kick her out. It seems to me you are at the point where you need to focus on changing your ways of dealing with her. She will either get with the program, or go live her life in this limbo that she seems to prefer. I know it's difficult and scary. I kicked my daughter out when she was 19 and she had an infant. It was because she refused to follow the rules of my home, so she had to go. She floundered for several years but over the last few years seems to have found her footing. If I had enabled her poor life choices she would have continued on living that way because she would have had no impetus to change. It's time for you to focus on your own health and well being. She is an adult and can live as she chooses, even when she chooses poorly. Sending peace to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 749608, member: 11235"] I would not sign the loans under any circumstances. She is in no place to go to school and be successful. I would sit down with her and let her know your expectations if she wants to continue to live in your home. Write them out- having a job, contributing $ towards the household, what time she needs to be home, being respectful towards you, etc. If she wants to continue staying there then she has to sign the agreement. Be very clear and very specific about what you expect. If she fails to abide by the agreement [I]even one time[/I] then you must follow through and kick her out. It seems to me you are at the point where you need to focus on changing your ways of dealing with her. She will either get with the program, or go live her life in this limbo that she seems to prefer. I know it's difficult and scary. I kicked my daughter out when she was 19 and she had an infant. It was because she refused to follow the rules of my home, so she had to go. She floundered for several years but over the last few years seems to have found her footing. If I had enabled her poor life choices she would have continued on living that way because she would have had no impetus to change. It's time for you to focus on your own health and well being. She is an adult and can live as she chooses, even when she chooses poorly. Sending peace to you. [/QUOTE]
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