Ah, Lil, you were lucky to have that with your mother. I had not seen my mother for ten years when she died of brain cancer and there were hard feelings. I missed the mother I wish she had been, not the one she was. She had been cruel. There are all sorts of dynamics on this board. I try very hard to be the mother my mother never was to me. When I make a mistake, I take it very hard and hope I'm not like her. Well, I know I'm not, but...just saying.
My only family is my dear husband and my children. I do not have contact with anyone in my family of origin except for my 90 year old father.
We are all coming from different places. It doesn't even bother me much as they were so toxic, bitter and horrid.
