Just to prove what a boring life I have, lol, last night I was thinking about your son's cleaning issues. Who would have thunk I'd mature into such a bore..not me. Anyway I thought of two ideas that were not included and possibly could help.
First off does he have a body scheduled time for his BM's? I know that sounds weird but my Mother told us back in the 40's that one of her hardest adjustments as a full time school teacher was that she was only allowed so many minutes a day to go to the bathroom. Of course the four of us thought that was really funny until she pointed out that we might avoid embarrassment by trying to go at the same time each day (usually early in the morning or in the evening). Without more discussion I decided to try that out and my body did adjust. For difficult child's they often are in a hurry to go play, watch tv or whatever and sitting for awhile is a quick inconvenience. Just a thought.
Secondly..which is more far out, lol..a few years ago in Dear Abbey or Ann Landers a young woman wrote in and said that she lived in a shared apartment where everyone split costs but one roommate would not pay for toilet paper because he didn't use it. In his culture the people always took their daily shower right after the bm time...therefore he didn't use tp. Of course that doesn't sound too appealing to me but (even though I never thought of it when difficult child was young) it might be worth consideration. If he showers before bedtime he would "all" clean for the night and you could bleach your tub.
Told ya I had odd thoughts to share. It's possible one or both could help. Hugs DDD
