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Mstang-You are right that we wouldn't put up with this from a spouse. I think what mwm said about them being mentally ill does make a difference. Also what meowbunny said about the child not choosing us matters. That being said I have started taking a much harsher stance with difficult child and his verbal abuse. He is getting timeouts every time he does this. Luckily for us he is now at the point where he will take a timeout and not destroy his room. His usual response now is that he isn't taking the timeout. I say fine but then you are choosing something much worse for a consequence such as no desserts or no tv time. That usually gets him to his room fairly quickly. The timeouts seems to be working a bit-not perfect but at least the verbal abuse is down. Part of that may also be due to the most recent medication increase we did as he appears more stable than he was.

Hugs to you because I think that the verbal abuse does wear us down-at least I feel it wearing me down.

<blockquote data-quote="Wiped Out" data-source="post: 63468" data-attributes="member: 1631">Mstang-You are right that we wouldn't put up with this from a spouse.&nbsp; I think what mwm said about them being mentally ill does make a difference. Also what meowbunny said about the child not choosing us matters. That being said I have started taking a much harsher stance with difficult child and his verbal abuse.&nbsp; He is getting timeouts every time he does this.&nbsp; Luckily for us he is now at the point where he will take a timeout and not destroy his room.&nbsp; His usual response now is that he isn't taking the timeout.&nbsp; I say fine but then you are choosing something much worse for a consequence such as no desserts or no tv time.&nbsp; That usually gets him to his room fairly quickly.&nbsp; The timeouts seems to be working a bit-not perfect but at least the verbal abuse is down.&nbsp; Part of that may also be due to the most recent medication increase we did as he appears more stable than he was.Hugs to you because I think that the verbal abuse does wear us down-at least I feel it wearing me down.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Wiped Out, post: 63468, member: 1631"] Mstang-You are right that we wouldn't put up with this from a spouse. I think what mwm said about them being mentally ill does make a difference. Also what meowbunny said about the child not choosing us matters. That being said I have started taking a much harsher stance with difficult child and his verbal abuse. He is getting timeouts every time he does this. Luckily for us he is now at the point where he will take a timeout and not destroy his room. His usual response now is that he isn't taking the timeout. I say fine but then you are choosing something much worse for a consequence such as no desserts or no tv time. That usually gets him to his room fairly quickly. The timeouts seems to be working a bit-not perfect but at least the verbal abuse is down. Part of that may also be due to the most recent medication increase we did as he appears more stable than he was. Hugs to you because I think that the verbal abuse does wear us down-at least I feel it wearing me down. [/QUOTE]

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