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Consequences are that people won't like him or he may get punished. Punishing a child for being disrespectful to parents may or may not be helpful if the child is unable to control his behavior. Impulsivity, anger, aggressiveness are often brain issues which are acted on without control. Many of our children are aware that some of their behavior is wrong and many of them wish they could behave better. Most of them mean what they say when they vow to never act badly again. They don't want to be bad. There are times when punishing a child for behavior which is the result of a malfunctioning brain is merely rubbing his face in his disability and likely to cause resentment. It is equivalent to punishing a child with stomach flu for vomiting or a child with diabetes for having high blood sugar. That a child behaves badly is not an indication that the child doesn't understand that his behavior is bad and not acceptable. It could be that he has no control over the working of his brain.

<blockquote data-quote="Sara PA" data-source="post: 63656" data-attributes="member: 1498">Consequences are that people won't like him or he may get punished.&nbsp; Punishing a child for being disrespectful to parents may or may not be helpful if the child is unable to control his behavior.&nbsp; Impulsivity, anger, aggressiveness are often brain issues which are acted on without control.&nbsp; Many of our children are aware that some of their behavior is wrong and many of them wish they could behave better. Most of them mean what they say when they vow to never act badly again.&nbsp; They don't want to be bad. There are times when punishing a child for&nbsp; behavior which is the result of a malfunctioning brain is merely rubbing his face in his disability and likely to cause resentment. It is equivalent to punishing a child with stomach flu for vomiting or a child with diabetes for having high blood sugar.&nbsp; That a child behaves badly is not an indication that the child doesn't understand that his behavior is bad and not acceptable.&nbsp; It could be that he has no control over the working of his brain.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Sara PA, post: 63656, member: 1498"] Consequences are that people won't like him or he may get punished. Punishing a child for being disrespectful to parents may or may not be helpful if the child is unable to control his behavior. Impulsivity, anger, aggressiveness are often brain issues which are acted on without control. Many of our children are aware that some of their behavior is wrong and many of them wish they could behave better. Most of them mean what they say when they vow to never act badly again. They don't want to be bad. There are times when punishing a child for behavior which is the result of a malfunctioning brain is merely rubbing his face in his disability and likely to cause resentment. It is equivalent to punishing a child with stomach flu for vomiting or a child with diabetes for having high blood sugar. That a child behaves badly is [I]not[/I] an indication that the child doesn't [I]understand[/I] that his behavior is bad and not acceptable. It could be that he has no control over the working of his brain. [/QUOTE]

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