Well, I'm not gonna comment on the "he can't help it" stuff, because, I think you already know how I feel about all that, and well, I'll just tick people off.
With that being said, I agree with you on the spouse/SO thing. Yeah if my SO treated me the way my kids did, he'd be out on his rear end hahahaha. We just have no choice. This is the hand we were dealt, they're our children, we can't spank them, so we deal with it the only legal ways we can.
Fun, fun. Where's those margaritas when we need em, B?
Hugs.