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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 621341" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I hope RE won't mind that I got these lyrics for all of us---great song to download by Martina McBride. When I was going through my divorce from my ex---(alcoholic now in recovery)---I put this on my ipod and would run to it with tears streaming down my face---grateful but so sad that it had to come to that. Great song!</p><p></p><p><strong>"Independence Day"</strong></p><p></p><p>Well she seemed all right by dawns early light</p><p>Though she looked a little worried and weak</p><p>She tried to pretend he wasn't drinkin' again</p><p>But daddy left the proof on her cheek</p><p>And I was only eight years old that summer</p><p>And I always seemed to be in the way</p><p>So I took myself down to the fair in town</p><p>On Independence Day</p><p></p><p>Well word gets around in a small, small town</p><p>They said he was a dangerous man</p><p>But mama was proud and she stood her ground</p><p>She knew she was on the losin' end</p><p>Some folks whispered and some folks talked</p><p>But everybody looked the other way</p><p>And when time ran out there was no one about</p><p>On Independence Day</p><p></p><p>Let freedom ring, let the white dove sing</p><p>Let the whole world know that today is a day of reckoning</p><p>Let the weak be strong, let the right be wrong</p><p>Roll the stone away, let the guilty pay it's Independence Day</p><p></p><p>Well she lit up the sky that fourth of July</p><p>By the time that the firemen come</p><p>They just put out the flames, and took down some names</p><p>And sent me to the county home</p><p>Now I ain't sayin' it's right or it's wrong</p><p>But maybe it's the only way</p><p>Talk about your revolution</p><p>It's Independence Day</p><p></p><p>Let freedom ring, let the white dove sing</p><p>Let the whole world know that today is a day of reckoning</p><p>Let the weak be strong, let the right be wrong</p><p>Roll the stone away, let the guilty pay it's Independence Day</p><p>Roll the stone away</p><p>It's Independence day </p><p></p><p>BITS---you are moving forward! This is what it looks like. It's so hard and so sad and so mad and so scary and so helpless and numb and slowly, slowly, slowly (like turning the Titantic, oh so slowly) those days and moments and hours are fewer and in comes some relief then more numbness then more grief, then some rays of sunshine, and more relief, and back to numb and sad and lots of tears and in the center of yourself, you will start to notice a kernel of peace, then Peace. Contentment. Serenity. Gratitude. And you will circle back around and back around and cycle and cycle, but through it all you are getting stronger. You are counting more---to YOU. You will start getting more energy. You will start thinking more about the future and feeling like it is brighter. You will think about doing something for somebody else. You will be able to turn it over to God, just for this moment, for this hour, for this day. </p><p></p><p>BITS, you are DOING IT! I see you doing it.</p><p></p><p>You just disinherited him!!!! Yay! What a position of strength, BITS.</p><p></p><p>This is a hard, hard road. I have never heard of a harder road. But there is lots of fruit on this road. The fruit trees are loaded and all we have to do is reach up and grab a big red apple and take a big bite of it. There is much to be gained here. </p><p></p><p>The other road, the road of enabling, bears no fruit. Not for us. Not for them. It is another kind of hard. </p><p></p><p>This is the only road that makes any sense, BITS. On this road, you have a chance at peace, and your difficult child has a chance at peace.</p><p></p><p>If you dad wants to be mean and bitter and punitive and sick all of his life, okay. Be that way you miserable old man. But BITS, you don't have to be a part of it.</p><p></p><p>You are taking such powerful good hard steps, BITS. We are here for you. Right now, please get all of the help and support you can and keep moving forward. </p><p></p><p>We are with you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 621341, member: 17542"] I hope RE won't mind that I got these lyrics for all of us---great song to download by Martina McBride. When I was going through my divorce from my ex---(alcoholic now in recovery)---I put this on my ipod and would run to it with tears streaming down my face---grateful but so sad that it had to come to that. Great song! [B]"Independence Day"[/B] Well she seemed all right by dawns early light Though she looked a little worried and weak She tried to pretend he wasn't drinkin' again But daddy left the proof on her cheek And I was only eight years old that summer And I always seemed to be in the way So I took myself down to the fair in town On Independence Day Well word gets around in a small, small town They said he was a dangerous man But mama was proud and she stood her ground She knew she was on the losin' end Some folks whispered and some folks talked But everybody looked the other way And when time ran out there was no one about On Independence Day Let freedom ring, let the white dove sing Let the whole world know that today is a day of reckoning Let the weak be strong, let the right be wrong Roll the stone away, let the guilty pay it's Independence Day Well she lit up the sky that fourth of July By the time that the firemen come They just put out the flames, and took down some names And sent me to the county home Now I ain't sayin' it's right or it's wrong But maybe it's the only way Talk about your revolution It's Independence Day Let freedom ring, let the white dove sing Let the whole world know that today is a day of reckoning Let the weak be strong, let the right be wrong Roll the stone away, let the guilty pay it's Independence Day Roll the stone away It's Independence day BITS---you are moving forward! This is what it looks like. It's so hard and so sad and so mad and so scary and so helpless and numb and slowly, slowly, slowly (like turning the Titantic, oh so slowly) those days and moments and hours are fewer and in comes some relief then more numbness then more grief, then some rays of sunshine, and more relief, and back to numb and sad and lots of tears and in the center of yourself, you will start to notice a kernel of peace, then Peace. Contentment. Serenity. Gratitude. And you will circle back around and back around and cycle and cycle, but through it all you are getting stronger. You are counting more---to YOU. You will start getting more energy. You will start thinking more about the future and feeling like it is brighter. You will think about doing something for somebody else. You will be able to turn it over to God, just for this moment, for this hour, for this day. BITS, you are DOING IT! I see you doing it. You just disinherited him!!!! Yay! What a position of strength, BITS. This is a hard, hard road. I have never heard of a harder road. But there is lots of fruit on this road. The fruit trees are loaded and all we have to do is reach up and grab a big red apple and take a big bite of it. There is much to be gained here. The other road, the road of enabling, bears no fruit. Not for us. Not for them. It is another kind of hard. This is the only road that makes any sense, BITS. On this road, you have a chance at peace, and your difficult child has a chance at peace. If you dad wants to be mean and bitter and punitive and sick all of his life, okay. Be that way you miserable old man. But BITS, you don't have to be a part of it. You are taking such powerful good hard steps, BITS. We are here for you. Right now, please get all of the help and support you can and keep moving forward. We are with you! [/QUOTE]
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