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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 286351" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>there are a couple of ways to approach this. </p><p></p><p>First of all, has he ever been evaluated for sensory integration disorder (Sensory Integration Disorder (SID))? With the other sensory problems that could be the "overall" reason for the food texture and noise sensitivities. If his problems are sensory related you may be able to help using brushing therapy for the Sensory Integration Disorder (SID). It is non-invasive, non-medication and very effective. But you MUST be taught to do it by an Occupational Therapist (OT) because you can actually make the problems worse by doing it incorrectly. Once you learn you may find many problems get a lot better.</p><p></p><p>You can take other approaches, or combine approaches. </p><p></p><p>If you want to take a hard stance on this then you can insist that he let you check his bottom to see if he wiped after each time he uses the bathroom. If you find he isn't clean then you can make him do it in front of you. You could also include some kind of reward system that he gets points if he wipes and washes each time you check and find he did those things.</p><p></p><p>This could have a lot of anger build up. It could lead to increased anger and stress for both of you. It also could lead to digestive problems as he may start delaying a bowel movement or refusing to go for long periods. This can lead to major constipation that needs medical help to get things "cleared out".</p><p></p><p>You could do a reward chart where he builds up to a book or other reward by wiping properly and washing his hands. I recommend the following books by Andy Griffith as a reward - my husband read them out loud to the kids and they are a riot!!! "The Day My Butt Went Psycho", "Butt Wars: The Final Conflict", "Zombie Butts From Uranus", and "What Buttosaur Is That?". (OK, so the titles are interesting. These appeal tremendously to the 7 - 11 yo boys and some girls too! They are not "polite" titles, and the books truly are about what you would imagine they are. But it could be a way to get some humor injected into the situation.)</p><p></p><p>You may want to make a chart detailing how to wash hands, sort of like businesses post in the restrooms to remind their employees to wash hands. Put it in a clear sheet protector or wrap the sing with saran wrap by placing it face down on the wrap and taping it securely in back. then tape it up over the sink that he uses (or is supposed to use).</p><p></p><p>You could also make HIM scrub the stains out of his underwear and/or pants. Set them aside when you do laundry and then give him a scrub brush and some soap. Have him stand at the sink in the utility room or in the bathroom and scrub the stains out. Make sure he cleans up whatever messes he makes in the bathroom while scrubbing.</p><p></p><p>I think the scrubbing the stains, maybe with the reward chart using a sticker for each clearly worn pair of undies with no stains that comes through the laundry. the handwashing chart could be a good reminder that he needs to do that. </p><p></p><p>I hope this helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 286351, member: 1233"] there are a couple of ways to approach this. First of all, has he ever been evaluated for sensory integration disorder (Sensory Integration Disorder (SID))? With the other sensory problems that could be the "overall" reason for the food texture and noise sensitivities. If his problems are sensory related you may be able to help using brushing therapy for the Sensory Integration Disorder (SID). It is non-invasive, non-medication and very effective. But you MUST be taught to do it by an Occupational Therapist (OT) because you can actually make the problems worse by doing it incorrectly. Once you learn you may find many problems get a lot better. You can take other approaches, or combine approaches. If you want to take a hard stance on this then you can insist that he let you check his bottom to see if he wiped after each time he uses the bathroom. If you find he isn't clean then you can make him do it in front of you. You could also include some kind of reward system that he gets points if he wipes and washes each time you check and find he did those things. This could have a lot of anger build up. It could lead to increased anger and stress for both of you. It also could lead to digestive problems as he may start delaying a bowel movement or refusing to go for long periods. This can lead to major constipation that needs medical help to get things "cleared out". You could do a reward chart where he builds up to a book or other reward by wiping properly and washing his hands. I recommend the following books by Andy Griffith as a reward - my husband read them out loud to the kids and they are a riot!!! "The Day My Butt Went Psycho", "Butt Wars: The Final Conflict", "Zombie Butts From Uranus", and "What Buttosaur Is That?". (OK, so the titles are interesting. These appeal tremendously to the 7 - 11 yo boys and some girls too! They are not "polite" titles, and the books truly are about what you would imagine they are. But it could be a way to get some humor injected into the situation.) You may want to make a chart detailing how to wash hands, sort of like businesses post in the restrooms to remind their employees to wash hands. Put it in a clear sheet protector or wrap the sing with saran wrap by placing it face down on the wrap and taping it securely in back. then tape it up over the sink that he uses (or is supposed to use). You could also make HIM scrub the stains out of his underwear and/or pants. Set them aside when you do laundry and then give him a scrub brush and some soap. Have him stand at the sink in the utility room or in the bathroom and scrub the stains out. Make sure he cleans up whatever messes he makes in the bathroom while scrubbing. I think the scrubbing the stains, maybe with the reward chart using a sticker for each clearly worn pair of undies with no stains that comes through the laundry. the handwashing chart could be a good reminder that he needs to do that. I hope this helps. [/QUOTE]
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