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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 458101" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Start wording your requests so there can't BE a response from him answered with a question. Start making ALL your verbal responses STATEMENTS as if you have NOW become THE BOSS and don't need his input. </p><p></p><p>For instance.......</p><p></p><p>Honey would you like pasta for dinner? </p><p>WHY? </p><p>Now becomes </p><p>We're having pasta for dinner, No need to make you choose...your respose is constantly why, so I chose for us. </p><p></p><p>Sweetheart I was going to ask you to take out the trash, but I tired of your asking me WHY - so I took it out already. One less thing you have to do in our relationship. Then walk away as if you are happy with yourself and say to him "Eventually I'll learn how to do everything around here myself." and emphasise the word EVERYTHING. Then walk away. IF he says WHAT does THAT mean.....look at him and say WHY? Then blink and walk away. </p><p></p><p>Love, I was going to ask you to..........Oh never mind. (walk away) I did it. </p><p></p><p>Men face death every day. The fact that he either has not adjusted to loosing his father whom he was close to could be hard, but you are his wife and childish answers are unacceptable in an adult relationship. He's over 40 not 14. Of course you can START replying with "BECAUSE I SAID SO." and walk off in a huff.....and continue a completely dysfunctional relationship and hope he "grows out of" his funk - but him acting like an adolescent and regressing is not good for him or you. I mean does he behave like this at work? The boss comes in and says SMITH...... I need you to get those proposals out by noon!!! and his repsonse is "WHY?" Bulloney~! He knows WHOM he can do this to to evoke a repsonse and WHEN.....</p><p></p><p>So - I'd have ONE last chat about it and tell him - the WHY stops here. Either buck up and be your partner.......or Get ready to do everything yourself and by that I mean everything - to the point of preparing for a future alone. Sans an adolescent man who wants to behave like a child. If he's aware of it? Shame on him......If he's not? Here's his one chance for you as his partner to make him aware.....and from that point? Stop frustrating yourself and just get things done....go about your business and stop asking him for anything - because it sounds like you're not getting the help you need anyway, and if you are there is a ton of sarcasm involved and you don't need it from a mate. </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 458101, member: 4964"] Start wording your requests so there can't BE a response from him answered with a question. Start making ALL your verbal responses STATEMENTS as if you have NOW become THE BOSS and don't need his input. For instance....... Honey would you like pasta for dinner? WHY? Now becomes We're having pasta for dinner, No need to make you choose...your respose is constantly why, so I chose for us. Sweetheart I was going to ask you to take out the trash, but I tired of your asking me WHY - so I took it out already. One less thing you have to do in our relationship. Then walk away as if you are happy with yourself and say to him "Eventually I'll learn how to do everything around here myself." and emphasise the word EVERYTHING. Then walk away. IF he says WHAT does THAT mean.....look at him and say WHY? Then blink and walk away. Love, I was going to ask you to..........Oh never mind. (walk away) I did it. Men face death every day. The fact that he either has not adjusted to loosing his father whom he was close to could be hard, but you are his wife and childish answers are unacceptable in an adult relationship. He's over 40 not 14. Of course you can START replying with "BECAUSE I SAID SO." and walk off in a huff.....and continue a completely dysfunctional relationship and hope he "grows out of" his funk - but him acting like an adolescent and regressing is not good for him or you. I mean does he behave like this at work? The boss comes in and says SMITH...... I need you to get those proposals out by noon!!! and his repsonse is "WHY?" Bulloney~! He knows WHOM he can do this to to evoke a repsonse and WHEN..... So - I'd have ONE last chat about it and tell him - the WHY stops here. Either buck up and be your partner.......or Get ready to do everything yourself and by that I mean everything - to the point of preparing for a future alone. Sans an adolescent man who wants to behave like a child. If he's aware of it? Shame on him......If he's not? Here's his one chance for you as his partner to make him aware.....and from that point? Stop frustrating yourself and just get things done....go about your business and stop asking him for anything - because it sounds like you're not getting the help you need anyway, and if you are there is a ton of sarcasm involved and you don't need it from a mate. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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