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Withdrawing blessings on Diva's wedding
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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 534650" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I don't get a lot of input into her decisions and try really hard not to interfere but I was scared for her. She says she is never afraid and knows he has a problem. The wedding money is from one of her accounts. I told her we can use the remaining to help with rent of a small apartment if she does choose to walk away.</p><p></p><p>I have to be very careful or she will shut me out completely again. She did shut the door a little when I shared with a few friends. I need to keep a door ajar so I can be there if he does hurt her. I don't want her thinking I will play a told you so card or she will not turn to me for help.</p><p></p><p>I just ask her to look at what she really wants in life and if this path is taking her off course that no one will be upset or judge her if she changes it. In fact, everyone will be happy that she has left a potential horrible future. I tell her that if even one standard is low, then it is ok to walk. Good times do NOT outweigh the bad in domestic violence situations even if she doesn't feel fear.</p><p></p><p>I think she is going to stop telling me about these rages so that I will no longer know the level of them. I have started to ask her if she is safe hoping that hearing that word will get her to thinking about what it means and knowing Mom wants her to be safe.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 534650, member: 5096"] I don't get a lot of input into her decisions and try really hard not to interfere but I was scared for her. She says she is never afraid and knows he has a problem. The wedding money is from one of her accounts. I told her we can use the remaining to help with rent of a small apartment if she does choose to walk away. I have to be very careful or she will shut me out completely again. She did shut the door a little when I shared with a few friends. I need to keep a door ajar so I can be there if he does hurt her. I don't want her thinking I will play a told you so card or she will not turn to me for help. I just ask her to look at what she really wants in life and if this path is taking her off course that no one will be upset or judge her if she changes it. In fact, everyone will be happy that she has left a potential horrible future. I tell her that if even one standard is low, then it is ok to walk. Good times do NOT outweigh the bad in domestic violence situations even if she doesn't feel fear. I think she is going to stop telling me about these rages so that I will no longer know the level of them. I have started to ask her if she is safe hoping that hearing that word will get her to thinking about what it means and knowing Mom wants her to be safe. [/QUOTE]
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