Echo- I cried the first time I saw my son shackled, arms and legs in an orange jump suit being brought into court. It's just so heart-breaking. I chose not to visit him where he a did short time in the county jail, for many reasons, but mainly, felt he needed to sit and think, be uncomfortable without seeing or talking to me.
I am so sorry you went through all the physical and mental and emotional prep to visit son- only to not be able to see him. So now you know, no open toed shoes. Tomorrow or another day, you will get a chance to see your son. Hugs.