Jen, I agree with the others. My heart aches for your pain. Somehow or other I wish for you to learn and ACCEPT that your children's actions are NOT a reflection on you.
I still don't understand why you see your daughter's enlistment as a bad thing. I guess that since I come from a military background (my Dad was a career Marine) I see enlisting as an honorable decision to join an honorable profession. There are many thousands of women who are military when their husbands are not. It offers a decent wage, great benefits, job training and a future for many who didn't have those opportunities before. I do hope you come to terms with this and support your daughter's decision whether you agree with it or not.
But good or bad, your kids' decisions are theirs. I hope that you can find something to give your life some other direction...another challenge (in a good way)...some FUN...and if you can't, I hope that you will find the resources via medication or therapy or personal support to help you have a better quality of life.
Suz
