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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 673142" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>How about: "Less is more. I know that, now."</p><p></p><p>Also, to be aware where we are taking responsibility for outcomes we could never have controlled. The other person may have an agenda. It is hard to bless ourselves and go on from that little bit of forgiveness.</p><p></p><p>You are Serenity Sunshine. I don't like it when you name yourself hurtful names.</p><p></p><p><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite10" alt=":oops:" title="Oops! :oops:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":oops:" /></p><p></p><p>It makes me feel sad.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>"...was loud and hurtful on purpose...."</p><p></p><p>So none of this is your responsibility. In fact, you were very kind to listen, and to forgive in place. But the other person wanted to abuse.</p><p></p><p>I am glad the talk ended.</p><p></p><p>When we have been abused, we take responsibility to make sense of what happened. Bottom line is that we've been hurt.</p><p></p><p>I am very sorry this happened to you, Serenity.</p><p></p><p>Ouch.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It is good to take responsibility for our part in something, if we learn from it.</p><p></p><p>But I agree with Leafy. You are wonderful and generous and kind. Not a bad name of any sort. You are human. It's okay to forget, to make mistakes.</p><p></p><p>It's okay for me, too.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes, even if we haven't done anything wrong, the situation is not a good, healthy situation and we suffer for it, wishing it could have been something nicer.</p><p></p><p>I thought your response to Copa was stellar, Serenity.</p><p></p><p>I am going to try to remember that there is room and space and power in silence.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/grouphug.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":grouphug:" title="grouphug :grouphug:" data-shortname=":grouphug:" /></p><p></p><p>That is us, surrounding you and whispering good names that we know are true to erase the hurt of the bad one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 673142, member: 17461"] How about: "Less is more. I know that, now." Also, to be aware where we are taking responsibility for outcomes we could never have controlled. The other person may have an agenda. It is hard to bless ourselves and go on from that little bit of forgiveness. You are Serenity Sunshine. I don't like it when you name yourself hurtful names. :oops: It makes me feel sad. "...was loud and hurtful on purpose...." So none of this is your responsibility. In fact, you were very kind to listen, and to forgive in place. But the other person wanted to abuse. I am glad the talk ended. When we have been abused, we take responsibility to make sense of what happened. Bottom line is that we've been hurt. I am very sorry this happened to you, Serenity. Ouch. It is good to take responsibility for our part in something, if we learn from it. But I agree with Leafy. You are wonderful and generous and kind. Not a bad name of any sort. You are human. It's okay to forget, to make mistakes. It's okay for me, too. Sometimes, even if we haven't done anything wrong, the situation is not a good, healthy situation and we suffer for it, wishing it could have been something nicer. I thought your response to Copa was stellar, Serenity. I am going to try to remember that there is room and space and power in silence. Cedar :grouphug: That is us, surrounding you and whispering good names that we know are true to erase the hurt of the bad one. [/QUOTE]
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