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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 673592" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>That's an interesting interpretation, Cedar. It also makes sense as without my glasses the world is one big blur. I have very little functional vision without them. Like IC, they go on when I wake up, as soon as I sit up.</p><p></p><p>Neither of my cats sit in the sinks. Thomas just doesn't fit, and Squeaky doesn't seem to be interested, though up until recently she was known to chill out IN the light fixture above the bathroom sink.</p><p></p><p>She's finally fattened up to a good weight and I think may be too heavy now to make the jump.</p><p></p><p>Copa, I wouldn't doubt that you are, perhaps on a deeper level than you are usually conscious of, very angry with your son. Hell, he's killed the dreams you have for him.</p><p></p><p>It's not like it was with my husband where there was an end-point to the illness, grief, and then learning to go on.</p><p></p><p>With your son, it goes on and on, and there's no end in sight. You, in order to survive, have to make the decision to "kill" the relationship.</p><p></p><p>I didn't have to do that. Something external to me did that. There was an illness I could blame, and it wasn't the result of husband's CHOOSING a life-path that made him ill. (Unless you count going for a soldier and being exposed to chemical warfare agents). His illness happened to him. It wasn't something he CHOSE.</p><p></p><p>Another differencei is that I knew from the beginning that husband would die of his illness unless a bone marrow donor was found, and chances weren't good even with that.</p><p></p><p>I didn't have the roller-coaster of hopes being raised and then crushed, over and over again, that you have had to deal with.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes i think this whole thing would be easier to deal with if it were a known end-point you were facing, horrible though that may sound.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 673592, member: 1963"] That's an interesting interpretation, Cedar. It also makes sense as without my glasses the world is one big blur. I have very little functional vision without them. Like IC, they go on when I wake up, as soon as I sit up. Neither of my cats sit in the sinks. Thomas just doesn't fit, and Squeaky doesn't seem to be interested, though up until recently she was known to chill out IN the light fixture above the bathroom sink. She's finally fattened up to a good weight and I think may be too heavy now to make the jump. Copa, I wouldn't doubt that you are, perhaps on a deeper level than you are usually conscious of, very angry with your son. Hell, he's killed the dreams you have for him. It's not like it was with my husband where there was an end-point to the illness, grief, and then learning to go on. With your son, it goes on and on, and there's no end in sight. You, in order to survive, have to make the decision to "kill" the relationship. I didn't have to do that. Something external to me did that. There was an illness I could blame, and it wasn't the result of husband's CHOOSING a life-path that made him ill. (Unless you count going for a soldier and being exposed to chemical warfare agents). His illness happened to him. It wasn't something he CHOSE. Another differencei is that I knew from the beginning that husband would die of his illness unless a bone marrow donor was found, and chances weren't good even with that. I didn't have the roller-coaster of hopes being raised and then crushed, over and over again, that you have had to deal with. Sometimes i think this whole thing would be easier to deal with if it were a known end-point you were facing, horrible though that may sound. [/QUOTE]
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