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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 673711" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This is hard. I would rather be my son's mother. Except not a mad and vengeful one. Neither rejecting nor spurned.</p><p></p><p>Yes. We have built fences. They get stomped.</p><p></p><p>All of our loving protection is spurned. I know everybody will say that this is not the business of a mother of a <em>grown up</em> little flower. Sorry. I did not get the memo. It seems.</p><p>Yes. This is exactly my point. And us with them.</p><p></p><p>Most of all I hate the nastiness of it. The sordidness. The dirtiness. It is like a repetition with my Dad. Following him to bars. Getting propositioned. Being dead drunk with your own Dad.</p><p>And now we feel stomped on. And there is nothing to be done about it. Except to figure out how to stay enclosed in love. And to protect it.</p><p></p><p>I do not know why I am so despairing.</p><p></p><p>It is about protecting ones feelings. Accepting that ones feelings are ones own. That I cannot let myself, what I feel, to be at the mercy of what my son does or does not do or what I think about what he does, does not do or will or will not do.</p><p></p><p>It is about boundaries. Not just of conduct. But internally. Of having a safe space in myself that I will to protect. It is about protecting that. By action and by deed.</p><p>I will try.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 673711, member: 18958"] This is hard. I would rather be my son's mother. Except not a mad and vengeful one. Neither rejecting nor spurned. Yes. We have built fences. They get stomped. All of our loving protection is spurned. I know everybody will say that this is not the business of a mother of a [I]grown up[/I] little flower. Sorry. I did not get the memo. It seems. Yes. This is exactly my point. And us with them. Most of all I hate the nastiness of it. The sordidness. The dirtiness. It is like a repetition with my Dad. Following him to bars. Getting propositioned. Being dead drunk with your own Dad. And now we feel stomped on. And there is nothing to be done about it. Except to figure out how to stay enclosed in love. And to protect it. I do not know why I am so despairing. It is about protecting ones feelings. Accepting that ones feelings are ones own. That I cannot let myself, what I feel, to be at the mercy of what my son does or does not do or what I think about what he does, does not do or will or will not do. It is about boundaries. Not just of conduct. But internally. Of having a safe space in myself that I will to protect. It is about protecting that. By action and by deed. I will try. COPA [/QUOTE]
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