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Work and Germany Part II: Abandonment Recovery
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 674238" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I am having to come to grips with bad not good things, in my son. </p><p></p><p>Yesterday in the phone call I told him: I do not want to hear about your views about the Jews or Israel. </p><p></p><p>It hurts me when you talk to me about that. They are my people. I am them. My mother. My grandparents. Please do not anymore speak about the Jews to me. Think what you want. Do not speak of it to me. It hurts me. </p><p></p><p>I wanted to tell him that beliefs such as his, had justified and fueled destruction of Jews and their community for centuries, but he cut me off. </p><p></p><p>Angry. Aggressive. Let me say something, he demanded. Yelling it into the phone. </p><p></p><p>I said: I do not want to speak any longer. And I hung up. He called back. Again and again, a few times more. I did not answer nor did M. </p><p></p><p>Immediately, I got sick to my stomach. It continued through the day, the night and until now. I do not want a relationship with my son that makes me sick.</p><p></p><p>What if, instead of learning good things about our children, now that we are letting go of dreams, we are forced to see the reality of things? Meanness, disloyalty, betrayal, smallness, that we have warded off with our anger. </p><p></p><p>What if that is the reality of things, when anger, and faith are gone?</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 674238, member: 18958"] I am having to come to grips with bad not good things, in my son. Yesterday in the phone call I told him: I do not want to hear about your views about the Jews or Israel. It hurts me when you talk to me about that. They are my people. I am them. My mother. My grandparents. Please do not anymore speak about the Jews to me. Think what you want. Do not speak of it to me. It hurts me. I wanted to tell him that beliefs such as his, had justified and fueled destruction of Jews and their community for centuries, but he cut me off. Angry. Aggressive. Let me say something, he demanded. Yelling it into the phone. I said: I do not want to speak any longer. And I hung up. He called back. Again and again, a few times more. I did not answer nor did M. Immediately, I got sick to my stomach. It continued through the day, the night and until now. I do not want a relationship with my son that makes me sick. What if, instead of learning good things about our children, now that we are letting go of dreams, we are forced to see the reality of things? Meanness, disloyalty, betrayal, smallness, that we have warded off with our anger. What if that is the reality of things, when anger, and faith are gone? COPA [/QUOTE]
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