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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 312299" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Teachers are educators, even if they are Special Education teachers. Many don't really know that much about disorders (I know this first hand). Some don't update their training. When I told my son's Special Education teacher that he had Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified, she looked at me with a blank face and asked, "What's Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified? I never heard of that before."</p><p></p><p>I've had countless teachers ask me why L. isn't on medications for ADHD, which he doesn't have.</p><p></p><p>I have never met a school counselor or psychologist who seems to know a thing about disabilities. Either that or it's what smallmom said...they don't want to admit it because they don't want to pay for the child's services under FAPE. And many parents get intimidated and don't know there are parent advocates and that we can even take it to court if the school and parents differ. There is mediation.</p><p></p><p>I would have taken anyone who said "I guess he's not autistic anymore" away from my son. That person would not be a part of the team or allowed to help again because it's NOT helpful if the people who are supposed to help don't know squat. Fortunately, we do have the choice of going to the Dept. of Public Education and having them step in. But most parents don't know that or are afraid to make waves, which I never understood. If a child is not being helped, so what if you make waves? They will NOT take it out on your child, trust me. In fact, if they know you are watching them with a critical eye they tend to treat your child better than the kids of the parents who don't seem to care or who are afraid of them.The last thing they want is their school district investigated. The Dept. of Public Education decides how much $$$ each district gets. It's a bad thing for a SD to get on the dark side of the DPI.</p><p></p><p>Marg, truly, if we would have smiled, been polite and just written letters, we would have gotten nowhere. Unfortunately, we had to do tough love with the SD. That doesn't mean we yelled at them. But we did quietly go over their heads because they were not cooperating and L. was falling farther and farther behind and we didn't have time to butter them up and hope for the best. We were pretty desperate. Our interventions are from school and we needed them for him. In fact, we needed him to be bussed to a different school altogether as our district had no way to meet his needs. His dad and I felt it was urgent, and we called the DPI. After talking to the Special Education Advocate, he called the school district. Can't tell you how fast L. got all his interventions, the school of our choosing, and a bus ride door-to-door. They called us the very next day, telling us they were going to do what we wanted. They didn't put it that way, of course, and we didn't throw it in their faces. But that's what happened.</p><p></p><p>Also, advocates are great although they make educator's nervous. But that's because they know the state rules and make them follow the law to the letter. Yes, they will cheat if we as parents allow it. And most parents don't know every law.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 312299, member: 1550"] Teachers are educators, even if they are Special Education teachers. Many don't really know that much about disorders (I know this first hand). Some don't update their training. When I told my son's Special Education teacher that he had Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified, she looked at me with a blank face and asked, "What's Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified? I never heard of that before." I've had countless teachers ask me why L. isn't on medications for ADHD, which he doesn't have. I have never met a school counselor or psychologist who seems to know a thing about disabilities. Either that or it's what smallmom said...they don't want to admit it because they don't want to pay for the child's services under FAPE. And many parents get intimidated and don't know there are parent advocates and that we can even take it to court if the school and parents differ. There is mediation. I would have taken anyone who said "I guess he's not autistic anymore" away from my son. That person would not be a part of the team or allowed to help again because it's NOT helpful if the people who are supposed to help don't know squat. Fortunately, we do have the choice of going to the Dept. of Public Education and having them step in. But most parents don't know that or are afraid to make waves, which I never understood. If a child is not being helped, so what if you make waves? They will NOT take it out on your child, trust me. In fact, if they know you are watching them with a critical eye they tend to treat your child better than the kids of the parents who don't seem to care or who are afraid of them.The last thing they want is their school district investigated. The Dept. of Public Education decides how much $$$ each district gets. It's a bad thing for a SD to get on the dark side of the DPI. Marg, truly, if we would have smiled, been polite and just written letters, we would have gotten nowhere. Unfortunately, we had to do tough love with the SD. That doesn't mean we yelled at them. But we did quietly go over their heads because they were not cooperating and L. was falling farther and farther behind and we didn't have time to butter them up and hope for the best. We were pretty desperate. Our interventions are from school and we needed them for him. In fact, we needed him to be bussed to a different school altogether as our district had no way to meet his needs. His dad and I felt it was urgent, and we called the DPI. After talking to the Special Education Advocate, he called the school district. Can't tell you how fast L. got all his interventions, the school of our choosing, and a bus ride door-to-door. They called us the very next day, telling us they were going to do what we wanted. They didn't put it that way, of course, and we didn't throw it in their faces. But that's what happened. Also, advocates are great although they make educator's nervous. But that's because they know the state rules and make them follow the law to the letter. Yes, they will cheat if we as parents allow it. And most parents don't know every law. [/QUOTE]
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