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Working really hard to not be angry at my son
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 260835" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Kjs,</p><p>I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this.</p><p></p><p>I agree with Gcvmom and CJ's advice, that you change your card, discontinue difficult child's online Runescape and PayPal accounts, and never let him have access to your card.</p><p></p><p>This is a huge betrayal of your trust, and one that he has done before. I think that in addition to the above consequences, your difficult child should also have to face the natural consequences of losing your trust.</p><p></p><p>When my difficult child showed a continuing pattern of stealing from us, the whole family went on lockdown. Key locks on all interior doors. difficult child's access to certain rooms in the house (all bedrooms other than his own, my office, the basement, etc.) eliminated or severely restricted unless direct supervision by me or husband was available. I carried my purse with me at all times, and wore all keys on a lanyard around my neck. difficult child's backpack was searched daily, and his room was searched 2 or 3 times per week. I made it clear to him that my default response was not believe him because he had broken my trust so many times. So, without independent verification I assumed anything he told me was a lie.</p><p></p><p>I don't know that you have to take things to this extreme with your difficult child, but he does have to understand the seriousness of his actions, how they affect the whole family, and how they have repercussions. </p><p></p><p>And,congratulations on the merit raise at work!</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 260835, member: 3907"] Kjs, I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this. I agree with Gcvmom and CJ's advice, that you change your card, discontinue difficult child's online Runescape and PayPal accounts, and never let him have access to your card. This is a huge betrayal of your trust, and one that he has done before. I think that in addition to the above consequences, your difficult child should also have to face the natural consequences of losing your trust. When my difficult child showed a continuing pattern of stealing from us, the whole family went on lockdown. Key locks on all interior doors. difficult child's access to certain rooms in the house (all bedrooms other than his own, my office, the basement, etc.) eliminated or severely restricted unless direct supervision by me or husband was available. I carried my purse with me at all times, and wore all keys on a lanyard around my neck. difficult child's backpack was searched daily, and his room was searched 2 or 3 times per week. I made it clear to him that my default response was not believe him because he had broken my trust so many times. So, without independent verification I assumed anything he told me was a lie. I don't know that you have to take things to this extreme with your difficult child, but he does have to understand the seriousness of his actions, how they affect the whole family, and how they have repercussions. And,congratulations on the merit raise at work! Trinity [/QUOTE]
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