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<blockquote data-quote="ready2run" data-source="post: 428881" data-attributes="member: 11339"><p>well tomorrow we (his dad probably) will be taking him in to get some x-rays done. then depending on that more testing to see if this is going to stop on it's own or if we need to intervene somehow. i'm not really sure what's going to happen next. we had the school take him out of gym class and had his EA teaching him marbles at recess to keep him from getting too excited. we don't have a proper family doctor for him, just alot of psychiatric people and a pediatrician that specializes in behaviour problems so i'm not sure who is even supposed to follow up with him but i spoke to his psychiatrist today and they said they will make sure he ends up at the best doctor to deal with it once they find out if there is any actual physical damage to his heart. they also said to take him off all his medication immediately so the next few days should be pretty rough on him.</p><p> </p><p>we tried to treat him without medication. i tried all kinds of things, changing his diet, behaviour modification, being consistent, reward systems, ect. at the point when he was hurting himself and others on a daily basis and he was crying for most of the day and destroying everything from toys, to windows, his bed, pulling the floors apart, we decided we had to medicate him. he even tried to smother my youngest son to death and he was only 15 months old at the time when difficult child got his hands on him. the only options left were medication and foster care....... i hope it does not come back down to that again. he did fairly well today other than talking non-stop and one aggressive incident towards his brother.</p><p> </p><p> it is also very hard for me because his dad can not tolerate him very well and tends to make things so much worse than they need to be. for example, today difficult child demanded to his brother that he hand over whatever thing he had or else. now, i would have said 'no, that's not nice and that's not how we get what we want.' then he probably would have cried and got increasingly angry and i'd have to ask him to leave the room. dad has other ideas. he thinks if he gets really strict he can get the 'bad' out of the kid. so he hears this and grabs him by the arm, takes him up to his room and starts yelling at him about how he'd better not talk to people like that and telling him how rude he is bossing people around. difficult child goes into immediate meltdown mode and proceeds to smash up his room and slam things around yelling he hates us and he wants to leave and go live with ms.revard(his ea) so i once again tell husband that what difficult child did wasn't that bad and there was no reason for him to act like that and he needs to remember that difficult child is disabled and can't control himself because he seems to forget that and expects him to be a easy child all the time..... i think if i didn't have to deal with husband i could handle difficult child alot better but, hey, it's his kid so he must know best, or so i'm told. difficult child is step-child by the way, the others are mine just to clear that up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ready2run, post: 428881, member: 11339"] well tomorrow we (his dad probably) will be taking him in to get some x-rays done. then depending on that more testing to see if this is going to stop on it's own or if we need to intervene somehow. i'm not really sure what's going to happen next. we had the school take him out of gym class and had his EA teaching him marbles at recess to keep him from getting too excited. we don't have a proper family doctor for him, just alot of psychiatric people and a pediatrician that specializes in behaviour problems so i'm not sure who is even supposed to follow up with him but i spoke to his psychiatrist today and they said they will make sure he ends up at the best doctor to deal with it once they find out if there is any actual physical damage to his heart. they also said to take him off all his medication immediately so the next few days should be pretty rough on him. we tried to treat him without medication. i tried all kinds of things, changing his diet, behaviour modification, being consistent, reward systems, ect. at the point when he was hurting himself and others on a daily basis and he was crying for most of the day and destroying everything from toys, to windows, his bed, pulling the floors apart, we decided we had to medicate him. he even tried to smother my youngest son to death and he was only 15 months old at the time when difficult child got his hands on him. the only options left were medication and foster care....... i hope it does not come back down to that again. he did fairly well today other than talking non-stop and one aggressive incident towards his brother. it is also very hard for me because his dad can not tolerate him very well and tends to make things so much worse than they need to be. for example, today difficult child demanded to his brother that he hand over whatever thing he had or else. now, i would have said 'no, that's not nice and that's not how we get what we want.' then he probably would have cried and got increasingly angry and i'd have to ask him to leave the room. dad has other ideas. he thinks if he gets really strict he can get the 'bad' out of the kid. so he hears this and grabs him by the arm, takes him up to his room and starts yelling at him about how he'd better not talk to people like that and telling him how rude he is bossing people around. difficult child goes into immediate meltdown mode and proceeds to smash up his room and slam things around yelling he hates us and he wants to leave and go live with ms.revard(his ea) so i once again tell husband that what difficult child did wasn't that bad and there was no reason for him to act like that and he needs to remember that difficult child is disabled and can't control himself because he seems to forget that and expects him to be a easy child all the time..... i think if i didn't have to deal with husband i could handle difficult child alot better but, hey, it's his kid so he must know best, or so i'm told. difficult child is step-child by the way, the others are mine just to clear that up. [/QUOTE]
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