Sherril2000- You know your son's comments to girlfriend are nothing more then deflection; not willing to take ownership of why he is jail, his life choices. It's so much easier to blame it on mom, dad, siblings, etc. YOU know your love for him- that is all that matters. Love isn't bailing kid out of jail every time they make a choice to break the law. Love is standing your ground even though it breaks your heart. I funded my son's account as well- no regrets. BUT I like you- refused to bail him out. He needed to stay there to think about how he got there, a time out from all the drama that was going on in his life, the bad people he was associating it, etc. He had food, bed, no drugs. Hang in there. I know the walk you are on, as do others here.
