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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 34387" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>No way will Angela not contact you again. Where will she go to free load holiday meals and presents? </p><p>Sorry Sue. Kids will act like kids until you stop treating them like kids. Next holiday assign a dish to each of the girls. They are not disabled, just self indulgent. </p><p>I can remember the first time the "adults" didn't pick up our tab for dinner. I'm a responsible adult but it's just habit that mom and dad pay until it was obvious that we were to pay our own way. I'm talking only once or twice a year meeting up with them for dinner. If it wasn't obvious to me then I'm sure it's not obvious to our difficult child's. Once we weren't expected to act like kids we stopped it and paid our own way.(we were poor newlyweds with husband in school full time). </p><p></p><p>The temper tantrums in your home with adult children are pretty over the top at times. They are like 12yr old hormonal adolescents. Do they not see they are ruining the family get together? No way would I make a separate main course for Angela. She is welcome to prepare a vegatarian Easter meal and you will put it with your meal. If you went to her house would you expect her to cook meat? by the way, why doesn't Angela host the next holiday? Just a thought. </p><p></p><p>Melissa and the seating is really a little out there. It's so juvenile and petty that I wonder if she is doing drugs but even drugs don't make you that stupid, does it? </p><p></p><p>When difficult child is itching to draw me into an argument(as he tried yesterday) I have been just saying that I won't get drawn in and ruin my day. I go to my room and shut the door. I refuse to have him turn me into a miserable person. In the upcoming years, I'm sure I will hear how I disappointed them by being miserable and crabby during the holidays. It's revisionist history by the kids who trigger the chaos. </p><p></p><p>I'm with the member who said, take mom and go somewhere without the girls. Explain that you wanted a pleasant holiday and your experience is they don't like the seating or the food so you are starting a new tradition. Take a weekend trip away with mom. It may only take one holiday to wake them up to smell the roses. </p><p></p><p>My standard line is "someday I will be dead, what will you do then? " Some kids think parents are not people with feelings and emotions. It's nonsense. We are to be tolerant but we are never to let them walk on us or demean us. We do them no favors by not holding them accountable for what comes out of their mouths. </p><p></p><p>Ask them if they had hosted a meal and you said the same things they said and acted as they acted, how would they feel? Put a mirror to their faces. Let them see who they really are to you and husband.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 34387, member: 3"] No way will Angela not contact you again. Where will she go to free load holiday meals and presents? Sorry Sue. Kids will act like kids until you stop treating them like kids. Next holiday assign a dish to each of the girls. They are not disabled, just self indulgent. I can remember the first time the "adults" didn't pick up our tab for dinner. I'm a responsible adult but it's just habit that mom and dad pay until it was obvious that we were to pay our own way. I'm talking only once or twice a year meeting up with them for dinner. If it wasn't obvious to me then I'm sure it's not obvious to our difficult child's. Once we weren't expected to act like kids we stopped it and paid our own way.(we were poor newlyweds with husband in school full time). The temper tantrums in your home with adult children are pretty over the top at times. They are like 12yr old hormonal adolescents. Do they not see they are ruining the family get together? No way would I make a separate main course for Angela. She is welcome to prepare a vegatarian Easter meal and you will put it with your meal. If you went to her house would you expect her to cook meat? by the way, why doesn't Angela host the next holiday? Just a thought. Melissa and the seating is really a little out there. It's so juvenile and petty that I wonder if she is doing drugs but even drugs don't make you that stupid, does it? When difficult child is itching to draw me into an argument(as he tried yesterday) I have been just saying that I won't get drawn in and ruin my day. I go to my room and shut the door. I refuse to have him turn me into a miserable person. In the upcoming years, I'm sure I will hear how I disappointed them by being miserable and crabby during the holidays. It's revisionist history by the kids who trigger the chaos. I'm with the member who said, take mom and go somewhere without the girls. Explain that you wanted a pleasant holiday and your experience is they don't like the seating or the food so you are starting a new tradition. Take a weekend trip away with mom. It may only take one holiday to wake them up to smell the roses. My standard line is "someday I will be dead, what will you do then? " Some kids think parents are not people with feelings and emotions. It's nonsense. We are to be tolerant but we are never to let them walk on us or demean us. We do them no favors by not holding them accountable for what comes out of their mouths. Ask them if they had hosted a meal and you said the same things they said and acted as they acted, how would they feel? Put a mirror to their faces. Let them see who they really are to you and husband. [/QUOTE]
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