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Cedar,

First of all Happy Father's Day to your husband. It sounds as if he deserves one and I hope you both do something nice like watch the sunset together, go out for ice cream or put on a favorite old movie to treat yourselves.


As for your situation with your son, I know only too well that they are in the driver's seat when it comes to contact with the grandkids and they can't see the harm in letting their manipulative nature seep into that sacred relationship between grandparents and their grandchildren.


Here's what I would do...and by saying that, I am in no way implying that it's right for you. I just hope it helps.


I would send the cards on the date closest to the birthday of the children. If you normally send cash or a little gift, I would put a Mc Donald's or Dairy Queen gift certificate, stickers or little trinket in and say, "for waiting a little longer for your card (or not getting it on the exact day), you get a little something extra". They will start to hope you miss the days by a little. If you think difficult child will not give this to them send cookie bouquets or balloons. And when age appropriate, a drum set or ant farm. difficult child will be on his knees hoping you send a card instead.


If you still don't have their address, google it. The white pages, Blockshopper and Spokeo can get it right or get pretty darn close. Get close enough and maybe you can call the local post office to give you the exact address or once you get the street, town and zip, put please forward on it. Zillow can help too. All these options should be free. Don't get tricked into subscribing to something. Keep trying. One day the grandkids will be old enough to make their own choices about who they have in their lives. If you have trouble navigating this PM me and I will try.


As for the Hallmark commercials, I not only cringe when they are on but also struggled with the backstories on the Olympics, The Voice, So You Think You Can Dance, The Oscars....anywhere kids thank their parents for their influence and strength. Yes, TV is full of land mines. There's a Latuda Bipolar medication that is on every night at 9:30 p.m. bringing my mind right to the situation with difficult child 1. Now TV is off by 9:15.


The Lord gave us this day. Let's make it a good one. He is the ultimate Father.


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