Interesting post Cedar. You know, I think that gets easier, at least it did for me, when I was able to see my daughter without my sense of responsibility for her, without my thinking I know better and that I have a right to judge her out of my own reference points. Then however she moves around the planet is not indicative of something I can change or heal or shift into something I want. It took me some real time to be able to see my daughter for who she really is, the positive and the negative and accept those without needing to do something about any of it. Somehow that broke a connection which allows the love and releases the rest of it as truth I can't do anything about.
I think we really have to let go of them in so many different ways until they are separate human beings whom we can see standing before us without our own image being reflected back somehow. I have a feeling that in letting them go in that way we also release them and us, in some cases, from an unhealthy bond. It did for me anyway. I think that old adage, the truth will set you free, applies. It takes a long time to see the truth when it's our offspring, but once we do, I think that changes the whole playing field.
