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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 35719" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>My difficult child is doing relatively well living on her own. She is working, paying her own bills, and is nice when we see her or talk to her on the phone.</p><p></p><p>Sounds pretty good for a difficult child, right? Here is what is bothering me. She hasn't taken the final step to being a fully independent adult. Rather than pay her bills online or by check, she waits until the last minute and then asks husband to pay the bill online with one of our credit cards. Then she gives us the cash to pay us back.</p><p></p><p>For example, her car insurance was due yesterday. husband reminded her that it was coming due a few days ago. difficult child said she knew and had it covered. Then, yesterday, she called and said she was a few dollars short which she would make that night a work. She asked husband to go ahead and pay the bill with our credit card and said that she would bring the money over that night which she did.</p><p></p><p>husband seems to be happy that she is working and paying her own bills and doesn't seem to be bothered about paying it online for her as long as she pays us back. I don't like it since it means that she is still not planning ahead and taking care of her own bills without involving us. </p><p></p><p>She also does it with her cell phone bill although she is better about that one since she can go pay it in person. Some months she pays it herself and other months she asks us to pay it online and then pays us back.</p><p></p><p>So what do you all think? Should I just count my blessings here and let it go? Or try to get her to take care of these things on her own? </p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 35719, member: 1967"] My difficult child is doing relatively well living on her own. She is working, paying her own bills, and is nice when we see her or talk to her on the phone. Sounds pretty good for a difficult child, right? Here is what is bothering me. She hasn't taken the final step to being a fully independent adult. Rather than pay her bills online or by check, she waits until the last minute and then asks husband to pay the bill online with one of our credit cards. Then she gives us the cash to pay us back. For example, her car insurance was due yesterday. husband reminded her that it was coming due a few days ago. difficult child said she knew and had it covered. Then, yesterday, she called and said she was a few dollars short which she would make that night a work. She asked husband to go ahead and pay the bill with our credit card and said that she would bring the money over that night which she did. husband seems to be happy that she is working and paying her own bills and doesn't seem to be bothered about paying it online for her as long as she pays us back. I don't like it since it means that she is still not planning ahead and taking care of her own bills without involving us. She also does it with her cell phone bill although she is better about that one since she can go pay it in person. Some months she pays it herself and other months she asks us to pay it online and then pays us back. So what do you all think? Should I just count my blessings here and let it go? Or try to get her to take care of these things on her own? ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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