Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
wow she's home and it's scary
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 415214" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>You are right Step - School nights could be different - the "please can I stay with you because I am having problems with my parents" would definitly be a red flag to contact the parents. In that situation you can pretty well be assured they don't know where their child is. And it is pretty standard not to have guests overnight on a school night so that would be the first red flag.</p><p> </p><p>Jena's easy child is 17 years old - I don't see a lot of parents if any receiving calls from other parents of 17 - 18 years old making sure they know where their child is overnight even on a school night. I don't remember Diva having friends over on a school night so maybe that is why I am not looking at this in that light. </p><p> </p><p>The other thing is that if the 17 year old is manipulating another adult, blaming that other adult would only take focus off the 17 year old's responsibility. In other words, getting upset and confronting the other adult would ease the burden of the 17 year old who would say, "Well, I am off the hook - it was so and so's fault for letting me stay." You send the message to the 17 year old that another adult will pick up the responsibility of them not doing the right thing.</p><p> </p><p>Then again, each kid is different and other adults do not always recognize a difficult child or a problem that picking up the phone and checking up on a 17 or 18 year old would call for.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 415214, member: 5096"] You are right Step - School nights could be different - the "please can I stay with you because I am having problems with my parents" would definitly be a red flag to contact the parents. In that situation you can pretty well be assured they don't know where their child is. And it is pretty standard not to have guests overnight on a school night so that would be the first red flag. Jena's easy child is 17 years old - I don't see a lot of parents if any receiving calls from other parents of 17 - 18 years old making sure they know where their child is overnight even on a school night. I don't remember Diva having friends over on a school night so maybe that is why I am not looking at this in that light. The other thing is that if the 17 year old is manipulating another adult, blaming that other adult would only take focus off the 17 year old's responsibility. In other words, getting upset and confronting the other adult would ease the burden of the 17 year old who would say, "Well, I am off the hook - it was so and so's fault for letting me stay." You send the message to the 17 year old that another adult will pick up the responsibility of them not doing the right thing. Then again, each kid is different and other adults do not always recognize a difficult child or a problem that picking up the phone and checking up on a 17 or 18 year old would call for. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
wow she's home and it's scary
Top