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<blockquote data-quote="FlipFlops" data-source="post: 281616"><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="color: darkorchid">What sets him off more than anything is "no". Almost everything he flips about has to do with what he wants and not getting it. A consequence being enforced. The last episode with me was because he had to stay in his room. I knew it was going to go south, and my little one was in the next room so kept difficult child in his room. And once it was on, I really couldn't let him out because I would then risk damage to other things in the house, others in the house, or leaving the house and damaging other people's property. I know this from past experience. You can't just ignore the bad behavior sometimes. It doesn't happen every time, but I would rather all those other details be safe than sorry. And if I were to just overlook everything and not make him stay in his room, then I am inconsistent. I live in a no win situation. If you back down because you think you are about to get your booty beat, you are told you are inconsistent. If you stand your ground, you get told pick your battles better. I told the therapist the other day that he keeps passing gas in my bedroom on purpose to annoy me. She asked me why I don't just leave the room. because its MY bedroom. Can't I have one place in the house that is MINE?</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="color: #9932cc">He also gets upset if he is being picked on or thinks he is. That would go with the Autism stuff. His answer, and he has said this, is to physically shut them up pretty much. He also annoys or amusement. He's bored so he starts messing with everyone. If you try to remove yourself from him, he will follow you and keep doing it. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="color: #9932cc">I'm think crowds can be overstimulating. But we have avoided those for a long time. Last summer at a water park he started fighting with some kid and parents got involved. We were expecting him back to our table in about ten or so minutes. After awhile I asked a security guy to help me find my difficult child. He asked are you so and so. I knew then they had him. Sure enough. He was cuffed in the medic area.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="color: #9932cc">I know I avoid crowds like the plague if we have difficult child, unless it is something I REALLY want to do. I get very overstimulated, more so now than ever. Poor easy child 2, I think the last real b-day party he had was when he was 1 or 2. Now we just go as a family to do something. I can't wait for difficult child to go to camp so I can have a slumber party and make a fort out of the couch cushions for easy child 2. He has no life. Kids can't come over here. difficult child makes it miserable. While difficult child was in juvie this last time husband and I got to take easy child 1 to her first concert and it was one of my fave bands. He was gone 26 days and I'm a little ashamed to say, I never missed him once. Life was so much easier...</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="FlipFlops, post: 281616"] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=darkorchid]What sets him off more than anything is "no". Almost everything he flips about has to do with what he wants and not getting it. A consequence being enforced. The last episode with me was because he had to stay in his room. I knew it was going to go south, and my little one was in the next room so kept difficult child in his room. And once it was on, I really couldn't let him out because I would then risk damage to other things in the house, others in the house, or leaving the house and damaging other people's property. I know this from past experience. You can't just ignore the bad behavior sometimes. It doesn't happen every time, but I would rather all those other details be safe than sorry. And if I were to just overlook everything and not make him stay in his room, then I am inconsistent. I live in a no win situation. If you back down because you think you are about to get your booty beat, you are told you are inconsistent. If you stand your ground, you get told pick your battles better. I told the therapist the other day that he keeps passing gas in my bedroom on purpose to annoy me. She asked me why I don't just leave the room. because its MY bedroom. Can't I have one place in the house that is MINE?[/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=#9932cc]He also gets upset if he is being picked on or thinks he is. That would go with the Autism stuff. His answer, and he has said this, is to physically shut them up pretty much. He also annoys or amusement. He's bored so he starts messing with everyone. If you try to remove yourself from him, he will follow you and keep doing it. [/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=#9932cc]I'm think crowds can be overstimulating. But we have avoided those for a long time. Last summer at a water park he started fighting with some kid and parents got involved. We were expecting him back to our table in about ten or so minutes. After awhile I asked a security guy to help me find my difficult child. He asked are you so and so. I knew then they had him. Sure enough. He was cuffed in the medic area.[/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=#9932cc]I know I avoid crowds like the plague if we have difficult child, unless it is something I REALLY want to do. I get very overstimulated, more so now than ever. Poor easy child 2, I think the last real b-day party he had was when he was 1 or 2. Now we just go as a family to do something. I can't wait for difficult child to go to camp so I can have a slumber party and make a fort out of the couch cushions for easy child 2. He has no life. Kids can't come over here. difficult child makes it miserable. While difficult child was in juvie this last time husband and I got to take easy child 1 to her first concert and it was one of my fave bands. He was gone 26 days and I'm a little ashamed to say, I never missed him once. Life was so much easier...[/COLOR][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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