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You guys told me-- D C always come back--Please advise
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 658669" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>SS, we make it through these moments and we learn something about ourselves and our habitual responses to life's 'stuff.' </p><p>We've learned from our past experiences with our children to tighten up and make assumptions, to be on the ready for the next assault.........and of course, that may happen. It has in the past. What I am learning is that every single moment in life is fresh and new and any old perceptions I may have had, may not be applicable or even real in this particular moment. Your son wrote you texts, that is all you know. The rest is all conjecture, assumptions, learned behaviors........all challenging not to dive into, but nonetheless, that's all you have right now. </p><p></p><p>In this moment, that's all there is. In this moment, life is exactly as it was before you received those texts. In this moment you and your husband are fine. I am learning to stay in this moment. Not to travel in to the past, not to travel in to the future. The past creates sorrow, regret, resentments, angers....... the future creates anxiety, control. Right here in this moment, I am free to allow life to unfold without what always happened in the past or what may happen in the future. It is a strange dance on a razors edge sometimes, but when I can pull it off, I am SO much happier. And peaceful. And calm. And accepting. </p><p></p><p>Enjoy your weekend with your husband SS.........enjoy all of your present moments.........simply enjoy......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 658669, member: 13542"] SS, we make it through these moments and we learn something about ourselves and our habitual responses to life's 'stuff.' We've learned from our past experiences with our children to tighten up and make assumptions, to be on the ready for the next assault.........and of course, that may happen. It has in the past. What I am learning is that every single moment in life is fresh and new and any old perceptions I may have had, may not be applicable or even real in this particular moment. Your son wrote you texts, that is all you know. The rest is all conjecture, assumptions, learned behaviors........all challenging not to dive into, but nonetheless, that's all you have right now. In this moment, that's all there is. In this moment, life is exactly as it was before you received those texts. In this moment you and your husband are fine. I am learning to stay in this moment. Not to travel in to the past, not to travel in to the future. The past creates sorrow, regret, resentments, angers....... the future creates anxiety, control. Right here in this moment, I am free to allow life to unfold without what always happened in the past or what may happen in the future. It is a strange dance on a razors edge sometimes, but when I can pull it off, I am SO much happier. And peaceful. And calm. And accepting. Enjoy your weekend with your husband SS.........enjoy all of your present moments.........simply enjoy...... [/QUOTE]
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