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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 489903" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>DDD, I hope you are right that it may be a blessing in disguise about oldest difficult child. </p><p>husband and I would just like him to be able to live his life with more moderate views. I know from first hand experience that being so "extreme" can lead to lonliness and isolation. But he is supported apparently by the church he and his wife now attend. So, I guess he doesn't feel alone in his views at the moment. </p><p>I just see this situation backfiring someday for him. He wants his daughters to go Private Christian Schools, monitor everything, give them the very very best, not let them cry for anything, etc. </p><p>And I wonder how he will handle things if his own little girls seek out an alternative lifestyle etc when they are older. I so hope that he will not take it personally if they do. Cause that is what happend to me. I felt like my boys were deliberately destroying my "perfect world". I couldn't understand how, with so much forethought, they could end up being addicts and terribly mischievious etc. Hadn't we tried to do all the right things? Hadn't we tried to protect them sheild them from all the bad in the world? Hadn't we given them "the best" that life has to offer...and THIS is how the repay us? </p><p>Now, I'm not saying this attitude I had was right at all. I know now that this is about a family disease and was never a personal attack by my sons. But it took a WHOLE LOT of Al Anon therapy for me to finally realize this. </p><p>So anyway, I just hope it will work out for them, we shall see. </p><p></p><p>Hugs, </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 489903, member: 3305"] DDD, I hope you are right that it may be a blessing in disguise about oldest difficult child. husband and I would just like him to be able to live his life with more moderate views. I know from first hand experience that being so "extreme" can lead to lonliness and isolation. But he is supported apparently by the church he and his wife now attend. So, I guess he doesn't feel alone in his views at the moment. I just see this situation backfiring someday for him. He wants his daughters to go Private Christian Schools, monitor everything, give them the very very best, not let them cry for anything, etc. And I wonder how he will handle things if his own little girls seek out an alternative lifestyle etc when they are older. I so hope that he will not take it personally if they do. Cause that is what happend to me. I felt like my boys were deliberately destroying my "perfect world". I couldn't understand how, with so much forethought, they could end up being addicts and terribly mischievious etc. Hadn't we tried to do all the right things? Hadn't we tried to protect them sheild them from all the bad in the world? Hadn't we given them "the best" that life has to offer...and THIS is how the repay us? Now, I'm not saying this attitude I had was right at all. I know now that this is about a family disease and was never a personal attack by my sons. But it took a WHOLE LOT of Al Anon therapy for me to finally realize this. So anyway, I just hope it will work out for them, we shall see. Hugs, LMS [/QUOTE]
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