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Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 705905" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This makes sense. I am thinking of a situation a year ago with a situation similar, except the kid was in a gang and dealing drugs. The mother's name: defiantchild.</p><p></p><p>Right away things improved. The son met a girl. One hundred eighty degree turnaround.</p><p></p><p>I respect your husband's point of view, which is very much like my partner's...in one respect. Miguel tries to do the right thing...which is not necessarily the indicated or easy thing....Unfortunately, I am reactive. I seldom if ever think ahead much.</p><p></p><p>Your husband is trying to take responsibility for everything. Which may or may not lead to the best result.</p><p></p><p>Your son to me is not considering anybody. Especially not himself. That your husband wants to consider and take responsibility for son's perceptions and feelings is admirable. But....</p><p></p><p>I can see the point that calling the cops will only lead to dire consequences for YOU. More court costs and legal costs. Seldom is there a right answer. More often, the least wrong.</p><p></p><p>You are not helpless. You just feel that way. This is an important distinction. My mother used to say, Copa, write down your options in two columns with a plus and a minus at the top.</p><p></p><p>And then, decide.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes we decide to do the wrong thing, because that is what we WANT to do.</p><p></p><p>You may WANT your son to stay with you in the house, even though you know it to be the wrong thing, in every way. That is OK, as long as you know YOU HAVE decided and you accept the risks.</p><p> Does an umbrella policy protect one? Like for the total value of assets, or more? Did you factor in future earnings? This is ONE scary thing I did not think of (although I am very good at imagining most every scary thing.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 705905, member: 18958"] This makes sense. I am thinking of a situation a year ago with a situation similar, except the kid was in a gang and dealing drugs. The mother's name: defiantchild. Right away things improved. The son met a girl. One hundred eighty degree turnaround. I respect your husband's point of view, which is very much like my partner's...in one respect. Miguel tries to do the right thing...which is not necessarily the indicated or easy thing....Unfortunately, I am reactive. I seldom if ever think ahead much. Your husband is trying to take responsibility for everything. Which may or may not lead to the best result. Your son to me is not considering anybody. Especially not himself. That your husband wants to consider and take responsibility for son's perceptions and feelings is admirable. But.... I can see the point that calling the cops will only lead to dire consequences for YOU. More court costs and legal costs. Seldom is there a right answer. More often, the least wrong. You are not helpless. You just feel that way. This is an important distinction. My mother used to say, Copa, write down your options in two columns with a plus and a minus at the top. And then, decide. Sometimes we decide to do the wrong thing, because that is what we WANT to do. You may WANT your son to stay with you in the house, even though you know it to be the wrong thing, in every way. That is OK, as long as you know YOU HAVE decided and you accept the risks. Does an umbrella policy protect one? Like for the total value of assets, or more? Did you factor in future earnings? This is ONE scary thing I did not think of (although I am very good at imagining most every scary thing.) [/QUOTE]
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