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Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 706164" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This happened to me, when my son was 17. He did block me with a defensive martial arts move, and broke my foot!</p><p>This is strength. You took back your power.</p><p>You did. You prevailed.</p><p> I think this would send a symbolic message. But it also escalates.</p><p></p><p>As far as the message to your other kids, I think by holding ground, you hold ground for them. They all (and your 17 year old) need for you, depend on you holding onto your power and authority...not necessarily prevailing each time, but acting to do so....to not give in to this arbitrary and unthinking dominance play of your child....I would not see it as taking away privileges of your other kids, but as showing them that they will be protected, their home will be protected...to the extent that you are able...you will do so. It is not in the main about winning. It is about taking responsibility.</p><p></p><p>Your son cannot be allowed to take control...without a fight. That is what I think.</p><p> I know how this is. I went through months where it felt like my digestive system was being eaten up by Drano.</p><p></p><p>You are doing phenomenally.</p><p></p><p>Your son will escalate. But remember that you are doing this for him, too. Especially for him. This is not against him. It is for your family. For him.</p><p></p><p>Remember it is for 3 months. You can choose to see this as in your favor. For 3 months you have a voice in how he lives. You are using it. This is for him. You are speaking out for his best interests. And for your children's interests.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 706164, member: 18958"] This happened to me, when my son was 17. He did block me with a defensive martial arts move, and broke my foot! This is strength. You took back your power. You did. You prevailed. I think this would send a symbolic message. But it also escalates. As far as the message to your other kids, I think by holding ground, you hold ground for them. They all (and your 17 year old) need for you, depend on you holding onto your power and authority...not necessarily prevailing each time, but acting to do so....to not give in to this arbitrary and unthinking dominance play of your child....I would not see it as taking away privileges of your other kids, but as showing them that they will be protected, their home will be protected...to the extent that you are able...you will do so. It is not in the main about winning. It is about taking responsibility. Your son cannot be allowed to take control...without a fight. That is what I think. I know how this is. I went through months where it felt like my digestive system was being eaten up by Drano. You are doing phenomenally. Your son will escalate. But remember that you are doing this for him, too. Especially for him. This is not against him. It is for your family. For him. Remember it is for 3 months. You can choose to see this as in your favor. For 3 months you have a voice in how he lives. You are using it. This is for him. You are speaking out for his best interests. And for your children's interests. [/QUOTE]
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