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<blockquote data-quote="neednewtechnique" data-source="post: 82064" data-attributes="member: 3527"><p>This all started in the counselor's office one day at the end of the year last year. See, our difficult child never had "involved" parents before she moved in with us. She was pretty much always left to take care of herself. So, moving in with us was a big shocker, when we wanted to do things for her, and there were certain things that we insisted she NOT be allowed to do without supervision...etc. So, instead of realizing that this was NORMAL involvement for a kid her age, she took it as being treated like a baby. </p><p></p><p>So, her and the counselor worked together to come up with a list of things that she wanted to do for herself, and a list of things that she was willing to allow us to be in charge of. One of the things she asked for us to allow her to be in charge of was her medication. We had a big discussion about this, because my husband and I felt like it was too much responsibility for a girl her age, but she had concerns of her own. Apparently, mom used to sustain her drug habits by swiping difficult child's stims when she dispensed them to her in the mornings!!! OMG, yeah that's what we thought, too. So, with the counselor's agreement, we decided that she would be allowed, and at first, it was probably a good thing we did. That is actually how we discovered the possibility that the STIMS might be what was actually CAUSING her problem in the first place. We started to notice a definite PATTERN that she was MUCH more pleasant to be around on days that she "forgot" to take her medicine...and that kind of spiked our attention that something was VERY wrong. For a while, she did really good, and didn't forget very often, it was only recently that she started to have problems remembering, and we ALL agreed that she was responsible enough to ensure she was taking the proper dosage, and she isn't in any way suicidal, so intentional overdose wasn't a concern either. I think we have reached an agreement that for now, although we will continue to allow her to get her own medication, we will be telling her when it is time to take it, and making sure she does, in fact, take it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neednewtechnique, post: 82064, member: 3527"] This all started in the counselor's office one day at the end of the year last year. See, our difficult child never had "involved" parents before she moved in with us. She was pretty much always left to take care of herself. So, moving in with us was a big shocker, when we wanted to do things for her, and there were certain things that we insisted she NOT be allowed to do without supervision...etc. So, instead of realizing that this was NORMAL involvement for a kid her age, she took it as being treated like a baby. So, her and the counselor worked together to come up with a list of things that she wanted to do for herself, and a list of things that she was willing to allow us to be in charge of. One of the things she asked for us to allow her to be in charge of was her medication. We had a big discussion about this, because my husband and I felt like it was too much responsibility for a girl her age, but she had concerns of her own. Apparently, mom used to sustain her drug habits by swiping difficult child's stims when she dispensed them to her in the mornings!!! OMG, yeah that's what we thought, too. So, with the counselor's agreement, we decided that she would be allowed, and at first, it was probably a good thing we did. That is actually how we discovered the possibility that the STIMS might be what was actually CAUSING her problem in the first place. We started to notice a definite PATTERN that she was MUCH more pleasant to be around on days that she "forgot" to take her medicine...and that kind of spiked our attention that something was VERY wrong. For a while, she did really good, and didn't forget very often, it was only recently that she started to have problems remembering, and we ALL agreed that she was responsible enough to ensure she was taking the proper dosage, and she isn't in any way suicidal, so intentional overdose wasn't a concern either. I think we have reached an agreement that for now, although we will continue to allow her to get her own medication, we will be telling her when it is time to take it, and making sure she does, in fact, take it. [/QUOTE]
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