I have joint custody 12 my year grandaughter with- ex-wife with whom she resides. My grandaughter often refuses to go to school - just won't get up. My ex-wife is scared to try to force her to go - my grandaughter is a big strong girl - already bigger and taller than my ex. Also, she often just walks out of school in middle of day. My ex will call her into school saying "She refuses to go". I have her in counseling and the school is aware of the problem - she also sees school counselor. Also, she doesn't turn in any homework or assignments. When she does her work she is an A or B student, however, she just would prefer to stay home and talk on her cell phone, sleep, go on computer etc than go to school. Example - her 6th grade class (she is repeating 6th grade because she missed so many days last year) has a field trip tomorrow. However, because she has had 4 unexcused absences in last 2 weeks the school is not permitting her to go. I spoke to school counselor today and the counselor told me that my grandaughter told her, "If I can't on trip than I'm not coming to school tomorrow". The counselor told her she can't do that - but reality is she can and will refuse to go tomorrow morning - my ex-wife already called to tell me that my grandaughter has told her she is not going tomorrow, and the school won't act on this either. What are my options? I can't go over there and drag her kiciking, screaming and fighting out of the house. Once you try to make her do something she doesn't want she becomes very stubborn - will kick dashboard in car break rearview mirrors etc. I feel there is no support from school as far as suggestions. She is a bright girl and as long as your not trying to force her to go to school or do anything else she doesn't want to do she is fine. I believe she has just learned that my ex will give in if she fights hard enough and then she can get her way. Sometimes she will stay home and invite other kids over while my ex is at work and make a mess of the house etc.