I'm at such a loss as to what to do for my little girl. From before she was 1, she would throw tantrums that could be up to an hour long and she simply could not calm herself down. She's 3 now, and they are only worse. They are violent. She bites, scratches and kicks me, caregivers and herself. She completely tears up anything around her, throwing and ruining all objects. She is so irrational and crazed/enraged that I don't know how she hasn't blown blood vessels throughout her entire body.
Not every upset causes a fit like this. We really can't tell what in particular will set her off. She can have a week where she has several days in a row of these violent fits, and then they may go away for several weeks.
When she doesn't do this, she is a typical, smart, loving and funny child. She has always been quicker to upset, and yes, we've let her be babied too much.
But guys - this is beyond a spoiling issue. Her fits never result in her getting her way, so there's no reasoning from her side to throw them. I think she seriously has zero control over herself. The only way she calms down is after it's been so long that she's exhausted and maybe distracted.
I've tried everything. I'm not even so interested in stopping the fits as I am in the fact that I fear she has a mental problem. From what I've read, she could likely have ADHD or another conduct disorder. Anyone who sees her act like this tells me it's not normal, including a friend who has worked with that age children for 10 years.
Please, give me advice. Does she sound like she needs help? I'll do whatever I can.
Not every upset causes a fit like this. We really can't tell what in particular will set her off. She can have a week where she has several days in a row of these violent fits, and then they may go away for several weeks.
When she doesn't do this, she is a typical, smart, loving and funny child. She has always been quicker to upset, and yes, we've let her be babied too much.
But guys - this is beyond a spoiling issue. Her fits never result in her getting her way, so there's no reasoning from her side to throw them. I think she seriously has zero control over herself. The only way she calms down is after it's been so long that she's exhausted and maybe distracted.
I've tried everything. I'm not even so interested in stopping the fits as I am in the fact that I fear she has a mental problem. From what I've read, she could likely have ADHD or another conduct disorder. Anyone who sees her act like this tells me it's not normal, including a friend who has worked with that age children for 10 years.
Please, give me advice. Does she sound like she needs help? I'll do whatever I can.