My daughter is really not travelling all that well. She still doesn't have a job but she has a little unit which she is desperately trying to pay for. She tells me that she is no longer using drugs but I don't believe that. I suspect her weekend enjoyment of them continues. She has lost all her friends except the unsavoury types. She looks awful and so unhealthy when she was once a stunning looking girl. Our family has really distanced themselves. She texted me to say how lonely and broke she was. While I feel really sad for her, I also feel so incredibly sad that the girl I once adored is no longer here with me. I have distant myself from her as our contact always is her asking for something or sharing how terrible her life is (which is because of every choice she has made). I also know this is terrible but I no longer want to offer to help to change her life or even encourage her. The person she was no longer exists and I don't like the new person at all. What sort of mother chooses to have no contact with her own daughter? What happens is something terrible happens to her and I have turned away from her? Just when I feel I have progressed with coping with life that has been left following all the destruction and hurt, my heart starts aching again with grief.