Today was the last draw.
A little boy in V's class is supposed to be V's friend (only friend..). A few thing did not add up, but I never really worried about it. V would tell me, they are friends and I was satisfied with that. The little boy came a couple times at our house for playdates, but they both seemed to play next to one another, not with one another. Oh well...
Then, today, as I pick up V after Lunch, the little boy says a big cheerful "bye dummy!". V does not react but I do! I tell the little boy it is not appropriate to talk like that, ended calling him on it a few times and he finally went "sorry!" with a major attitude. We walked out of the class room and then explained to V what happened. He had no clue this little boy was not supposed to talk to him like that. sigh...
He then goes "is it mean to call someone bonehead", I ask him why and he explains that the same little boy calls him "bonehead" a lot. I digg a little more and V tells me that he is also being called "poopy". GRRRRRRR
Of course, I explained that it was not nice and that no one was allowed to call him names.
After everything, all my warning on V's lack of social skills I decided to call the director of the center. She had the nerves to tell me that there is nothing the teachers can do if V does not tell them or if they did not hear!!! What???? Isn't it their jobs to be extremely vigilant, special with socially awkward kids??? I ended the conversation by saying that the teachers had been warned/coached about the situation and that it was most definitely not V's responsibility to handle complex social issues. That was simply unacceptable.
I then e-mailed the region director in order to file a formal complaint about our local center (today was the last of MANY issues).
They want to meet with me tomorrow and told me "there won't be any reprecautions" to what i laughed and joyfully said "I sure hope not".
Any advice for tomorrow? I do not write off the option of just keeping V with me at home for the rest of the year. Negative reinforcement is not what he needs.( Kindergarten is next year.)
A little boy in V's class is supposed to be V's friend (only friend..). A few thing did not add up, but I never really worried about it. V would tell me, they are friends and I was satisfied with that. The little boy came a couple times at our house for playdates, but they both seemed to play next to one another, not with one another. Oh well...
Then, today, as I pick up V after Lunch, the little boy says a big cheerful "bye dummy!". V does not react but I do! I tell the little boy it is not appropriate to talk like that, ended calling him on it a few times and he finally went "sorry!" with a major attitude. We walked out of the class room and then explained to V what happened. He had no clue this little boy was not supposed to talk to him like that. sigh...
He then goes "is it mean to call someone bonehead", I ask him why and he explains that the same little boy calls him "bonehead" a lot. I digg a little more and V tells me that he is also being called "poopy". GRRRRRRR
Of course, I explained that it was not nice and that no one was allowed to call him names.
After everything, all my warning on V's lack of social skills I decided to call the director of the center. She had the nerves to tell me that there is nothing the teachers can do if V does not tell them or if they did not hear!!! What???? Isn't it their jobs to be extremely vigilant, special with socially awkward kids??? I ended the conversation by saying that the teachers had been warned/coached about the situation and that it was most definitely not V's responsibility to handle complex social issues. That was simply unacceptable.
I then e-mailed the region director in order to file a formal complaint about our local center (today was the last of MANY issues).
They want to meet with me tomorrow and told me "there won't be any reprecautions" to what i laughed and joyfully said "I sure hope not".
Any advice for tomorrow? I do not write off the option of just keeping V with me at home for the rest of the year. Negative reinforcement is not what he needs.( Kindergarten is next year.)