Lost in sadness
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So, as you know my son was thrown out of his most recent house share. My husband helped him move his stuff out. He has gone to his girlfriends parent house who he has only ever met once!! Most of his belongings came back to our house and I have spent the whole week washing all of his stuff including the pillows and quilts, it smelt horrible!! The last two days I have spent ironing his whole wardrobe. Amongst his belongings was a bag of paperwork. It made an interesting read. Evidence of why he was asked to leave his old job (not quite the story he told us) a fine for jumping a train which is now at arrest stage for 3 months imprisonment, mobile will be cut off due to non payment, bank letter £950 overdrawn. Of course, I want to call them and tell them all he is homeless and without a job so that he does not get in any more trouble. How can he sort anything without a phone either.
On Sunday he sent me a message saying how much debt he was in and admitted he never said the £380 court fines. He said he needed a loan of £2,000 so he can consolidate his debt. I refused. He has no job and no means to pay it. I reminded him that his girlfriend received a nice Pandora ring, perfume etc for Christmas and how great he looked in his Hugo Boss tracksuit. He then asked me if I would ever get bored of making him feel like sh*t. Today i feel bad. I wonder if it was me that took him to this place. I try to remind myself of the pay day loans he has taken out and how he chose to spend this on the above items rather than his debts and it relieves the guilt slightly. I can see on messenger that he is getting up around 3pm each day and it makes me so sad! What is he actually doing to sort his life out?? There is no action on email other than one email to a recruitment agency with he burned his bridges with ages ago. Otherwise no evidence of him helping himself at all. I feel lonely and sad for him and I can't help but wonder how he is in his head. Is he just so mentally poorly that he cannot help himself and I am leaving him alone. I wonder how long this girls mum is going to want him just dosing around her house and the worry of where he will go if she throws him out. He is meant to go to court on Monday for driving offenses from back last year. It is nothing serious but I wonder if he will be arrested if he was to go due to the other stuff. Worse still, what will happen if he doesn't go. Should I take him? I want to write to the judge and ask him to please help my son. Is there nothing they can do? make him go somewhere for help? Thoughts please!!! xx
On Sunday he sent me a message saying how much debt he was in and admitted he never said the £380 court fines. He said he needed a loan of £2,000 so he can consolidate his debt. I refused. He has no job and no means to pay it. I reminded him that his girlfriend received a nice Pandora ring, perfume etc for Christmas and how great he looked in his Hugo Boss tracksuit. He then asked me if I would ever get bored of making him feel like sh*t. Today i feel bad. I wonder if it was me that took him to this place. I try to remind myself of the pay day loans he has taken out and how he chose to spend this on the above items rather than his debts and it relieves the guilt slightly. I can see on messenger that he is getting up around 3pm each day and it makes me so sad! What is he actually doing to sort his life out?? There is no action on email other than one email to a recruitment agency with he burned his bridges with ages ago. Otherwise no evidence of him helping himself at all. I feel lonely and sad for him and I can't help but wonder how he is in his head. Is he just so mentally poorly that he cannot help himself and I am leaving him alone. I wonder how long this girls mum is going to want him just dosing around her house and the worry of where he will go if she throws him out. He is meant to go to court on Monday for driving offenses from back last year. It is nothing serious but I wonder if he will be arrested if he was to go due to the other stuff. Worse still, what will happen if he doesn't go. Should I take him? I want to write to the judge and ask him to please help my son. Is there nothing they can do? make him go somewhere for help? Thoughts please!!! xx