LittleDudesMom
Well-Known Member
So difficult child and I were having a conversation about school, and other stuff, in the car yesterday. I told him that tomorrow (today now) he needed to start his vyvanse. He knows that he gets summers and holidays off his medications (always has with the adhd medications) and needs a few days to get it back in and work out some of the early side effects (he usually is a tad moody the first couple days).
So, he turns to me and says, "I think I should start school without it this year."
"Why?"
"I think I want to try."
"Are you sure about this difficult child?"
"Yeh, let's do it for one week and see."
"Well, do you think you are going to be able to focus and pay attention?"
"What?"
"difficult child!"
"Just kidding mom! I think I want to try"
I appreciated his humor......I am a little torn. On one hand, I think he sincerely wants to try and see if he can function without it. I can't help but sympathize with his desire to not take the medication. It's hard to judge what his focus and attention capabilities are since he's been doing what he enjoys this summer. The hyperactivity is really no longer and issue and the impulsivity is dimished as well. Although, he really needs to stop and think twice in many social and behavioral situations.
I've always been very honest with difficult child in regards to his issues. difficult child has always had a great grasp on understanding what he deals with and how it affects his world. Oh, not saying that his difficult child issues are magically cured by his medications or his understanding...I've also felt like he and I are partners on this journey - he and I have both worked so hard together to make the strides he's made the last six years.
So, the other hand is do I take the leadership role and insist he take the medication, or trust that one week will not make that much of a difference because it will just be the first week of school? I love difficult child off his medications, he is so much more animated, creative, talkative, tuned in - you know what I mean?
At 14, I feel like he should be albe to make some decisions regarding his life, but I also feel that he may not be looking at the big picture without his rose colored glasses.
Thoughts?
Thanks,
Sharon
So, he turns to me and says, "I think I should start school without it this year."
"Why?"
"I think I want to try."
"Are you sure about this difficult child?"
"Yeh, let's do it for one week and see."
"Well, do you think you are going to be able to focus and pay attention?"
"What?"
"difficult child!"
"Just kidding mom! I think I want to try"
I appreciated his humor......I am a little torn. On one hand, I think he sincerely wants to try and see if he can function without it. I can't help but sympathize with his desire to not take the medication. It's hard to judge what his focus and attention capabilities are since he's been doing what he enjoys this summer. The hyperactivity is really no longer and issue and the impulsivity is dimished as well. Although, he really needs to stop and think twice in many social and behavioral situations.
I've always been very honest with difficult child in regards to his issues. difficult child has always had a great grasp on understanding what he deals with and how it affects his world. Oh, not saying that his difficult child issues are magically cured by his medications or his understanding...I've also felt like he and I are partners on this journey - he and I have both worked so hard together to make the strides he's made the last six years.
So, the other hand is do I take the leadership role and insist he take the medication, or trust that one week will not make that much of a difference because it will just be the first week of school? I love difficult child off his medications, he is so much more animated, creative, talkative, tuned in - you know what I mean?
At 14, I feel like he should be albe to make some decisions regarding his life, but I also feel that he may not be looking at the big picture without his rose colored glasses.
Thoughts?
Thanks,
Sharon